how to encourage my husband to get rid of smoking?

Question

being his wife what role i can play for the same

Answer 1

You say your peace, then you back off...If you bug him he will do it in spite of you....

Answer 2

i think its more a case of the role you should not play and that is nag. you can first play the role of the encourager the enlightened one. Bring home various bits of written information about the harmful effects of smoking and the different ways people have to help themselves quit.
once you have done that if your husband does say OK i will give it a shot then be ready to be the wife of a man who is in serious withdrawal. it has been said that smoking is harder to give up then heroin. When that happens just be calm enough for both of you lighten his load and be ready to jump when he has a nick fit . suggest things like going for a walk and when you go for a walk at least for the first few weeks dont walk past smoke stores. go to the park instead. dont say the word smoke or any thing related to it . instead just say you are doing well with this effort of yours i am proud .
i find the mere mention of the word smokes or cigs is enough to make me go nuts.
oh by the way i am a smoker who wants to quit but i have tried and i know that all of what i have written was at least helpfull to me. simple fact is in the end after the initail hump its the ex smoker who has to keep the ex in smoking.

Answer 3

Support is the best thing, stopping smoking is hard for most people. Ask him not to smoke in the home or car, this is for your health.
Ask him if you can do something to help him, plan a few things to do with the money saved. Open a savings account to put cigarette money in and then plan a trip or a home repair you have both wanted for some time.
Just remember he wont be a pleasant person at first when stopping so be supportive during that time.

Answer 4

I am in the same dilemma. I am using moral persuasion and it appears to be working. Firstly, earlier in our relationship he smoked much more than he is doing at present.

I am always finding ways to mention that smoking is dangerous to your health, I did not insist and use harsh words for him to stop, i simply advised him that i had been doing some research and realized that he really shouldn't smoke, especially as he is getting older.

As i indicated, he has not quit but certainly he is smoking much less and i see this as a positive sign, although some may not agree with me. I will continue to be vigilant and i know that he will eventually stop.

As to your role as wife, do not give up on him and continue to treat him with respect even if you are upset about his habit, let him know that you have confidence in him and you KNOW that he will stop. It might just work.

Answer 5

Show sliides of medical college. Make him understand that if breathing is lost everything is lost. Harmonious breath and hugging give good health and healthy children are your future parens. Clarify that the smoking may bring feeling some social status but the future ill-eefects cuase disharmony among wife and husband happiness and even without that the happiness and sweet smell and what not all are avilable in youur hugging and sweet kisses every time and every nook and corner of your house only.

Answer 6

Tell him if he was to give up and put the money away (that he normally spent on cigarettes) he could buy a .....(something he wants).

Try the guilt thing and tell him that even the slightest smell of cigarette smoke is making you feel ill...

Withold sex telling him he 'stinks of smoke' and it makes you feel to sick to do the deed!

Bombard him with literature, pamphlets etc that show the dangers of smoking.

Tell him that you don't want to have to watch him die of some cigarette related disease.

If you have children tell him that he is being a bad role model and needs to set an example for his children.

Look into hypnotherapy. Some people find it very successful in helping to get rid of the cravings.

Most of all, unless he WANTS to give up smoking there is little you can do to make him. He needs to WANT to give up in order to find the willpower to get through it.

I hope for your sake that he decides to quit soon.

Answer 7

Stoping Smoking is a very hard job.
if he smokes 3 per day and take resolution not to take cigaret after 2 to 3 days he can't resist and will consume more than 3 per day.
so to stop smoking he has to take some khaini like chaini kaini.
it is also tobacco product.if he use this for a week.he won't like to smoke.he will stop the smoking.
but he can't give up chaini kaini.but to stop this habbit is more easy compared to smoking.

Answer 8

I know it's very very bad habit my brother smokes too I'm always looking some way to do something about it. I tired so many ways but it doesn't work. I just do not know what to do i wish i knew more sorry about that, good luck to you try your best.

Answer 9

I used to smoke and now when I smell someone smoking "a mile away" it is so annoying. I think a man is selfish to put his wife up to that. Tell him you are going to leave him, because apart from ruining his health, he is making you very uncomfortable and unhappy.

Answer 10

smoking has been proved to be an addiction and its a hard one to kick but try the patches or the nicotine gum ask him to smoke outside and remind him that second hand smoke kills and you really don't want to die for his habit good luck

Answer 11

If you have some habit that he does not like give up that on condition that he quits smoking