I have a big problem when trying to express my opinion or talk with strangers
2007-03-14 00:57:07 · 10 answers · asked by Mary 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you just have to force yourself to go out there and talk to a stranger. it will be hard for the first time but u'll get the hand of it. it will help you beat ur shyness...
2007-03-14 01:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by Millie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - try to be kind to yourself. It will not help you if you keep seeing yourself as a person with a problem.
Affirmations can really help - eg: "Every day I am expressing more and more of my opinions to others." "I am feeling full of confidence!!"
You might not think this will work - but if you say positive affirmations three times a day, you will notice a difference.
Counselling can be helpful, or attend an assertiveness workshop or a shyness clinic (if you're in London there is often a Shy Clinic at Regent's College - find the number on google and ask about it)
But most of all, be kind to yourself. Most people find it hard to be confident with strangers. You CAN feel better about this.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 08:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a part in the brain, called the amygdala, which causes shyness when it's more sensitive, which is the case with some people. It's a good quality, because it makes you more receptive to the moods and feelings of other people, but the downside is that it makes you own life more difficult.
It helps if you can really learn to love yourself. Allow yourself to think of your own good qualities (of course without getting too arrogant!) as often as possible.
There are also hypnosis downloads available which are supposed to help, don't know for sure how effective they are, though.
2007-03-14 08:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to every body you can, even walk up to complete strangers and introduce yourself.
INTRODUCE YOURSELF alot after about twenty introductions it goes really easy.
then hang out with people who have the same interest you do,
actually interest that you actually feel strongly about, get into debates or even arguments about different discusions and YOU WILL ARGUE for the fact that their view won't be exactly like your because their never exactly the same....
but by debating you will learn to voice your opinion very strongly.....
and if your real good you can win arguments with drunk &*%holes...hahaha
2007-03-14 08:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by kevin e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember that nobody cares. Really.
When you say "who gives a sh*t" it helps you let go and be yourself easier. When you're so over the top feeling that no one cares about your thoughts or opinions or feelings, you actually make them not care because it becomes too much work to pull that information out of you. So you have to say to yourself, "I don't care if you don't like what I'm gonna say, but I'm gonna say it anyway" (Of course don't be rude about it)
2007-03-14 08:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By adopting the Nihilist position.
Just realise that nothing in life has any consequence. It doesn't matter what you do in your life... how you live or die... what happens to you. It doesn't matter how much pain you feel or bring, how much joy you feel or bring.... except to yourself. And even then.... it is only your instinct driving you into a cyclic process serving no purpose itself.
And therefore... it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of what you have to say.... how they react to it... what may or may not happen to or for you as a result.
Only by casting aside all notion of consequence or importance... by casting aside all your worldly cares ... can you learn to garner contentment and appreciation from anything and everything..... as it is all, ultimately, the same.
To the Nihilist, all is transient and irrelevant... ultimately worth nothing.... and thus is ultimate freedom realised to act without care nor conscience.
2007-03-14 08:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Nihilist Templar 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Keep practicing...try not looking directly at people at first...look at the top of their heads, or at the tip of their nose....then eventually look at them....take deep breaths and just keep trying...you'll get used to it in time...good luck!
2007-03-14 08:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quick way, Fake it Till you Make it.
2007-03-14 12:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jean M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk around the town naked and when you are comfortable doing that you will be over your shyness
2007-03-14 08:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by dwjohnsonkonduz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just breathe deeply
2007-03-14 08:00:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋