We have been close friends for a few months. We used to talk about everything including our mutual attraction to each other and why we could never explore that part of our relationship. We call each other our "twin" or counterpart. He came and stayed on my couch when he "split" with his wife of eight years.Suddenly, I seem to be a burden, I can't depend on him for anything, not even a ride home from work at 10:00pm that he agreed to, instead he was unreachable and I walked home. He has become almost abusive telling me to stop calling and texting him (even when I'm simply responding to him) He's simply pulled a jeckyl/hyde manuever on me. I've asked him if I should take the hint that he doesn't want to be my friend. It's no great loss to lose who he has become but I'm very sad to lose my counterpart and I miss him. Why is he acting like this? What should I do? Some insight and advice, please?
2007-03-14 00:21:12 · 9 answers · asked by baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can't just write him off.........he's my friend. Even though his behavior lately has been unacceptable, I still love him and care about him...
2007-03-14 00:31:43 · update #1
I think he's unhappy with himself and that may be why he split with his wife. It's almost impossible for a relationship to continue when either person doesn't care about themselves. You can't care or love someone else, if you don't care and love yourself first. He could've also thought that when he started staying with you, that something would happen between you and he's upset because it hasn't. If he's still staying with you, I would tell him he needs to make some other arrangements! You never really know anyone until you move in together and maybe when he's gone, the friendship can be saved, but if not, move on to friendships that you can count on, because that's what you deserve in your life! It just sounds like he's a miserable guy , but just because he's unhappy, he hasn't the right to be ugly to you! It's his loss!! Be firm and stay strong! Hopefully he'll get it together and realize that you were his true friend! Good Luck
2007-03-14 00:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
whomsoever it may concern
It is always adviceable to be frank to each other. when it is not happening there must be something fussy about it. You better consult a suitable counsellor who can get the things clear. if you r in B.Lore u can approach free counselling center at Bull Temple Road in Ajithshree Bhavan near Telephone Exchange.
2007-03-14 01:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by pranayam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys dont hang out with women that they are not interested in sexually...its a law of nature. So now both women in his life are making him crazy. I'd guess his wife has given him an ultimatum about you...cause I would. Let him go. He's not yours unless he divorces her and shows up at the door with flowers...in the meantime you are wasting your time with a one-way relationship.........
2007-03-14 02:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is prolly still upset from the "split" and maybe he is hurt and still trying to recupreate.. and about the text and calling.. don't respond.. I mean.. that is his fault.. if he wants you to stop them stop.. use it against him... .. but just give things a lil more time and try not to depend on him for too much right now.. and if all and all doesn't work.. just talk to him... find out why he is the way he is....
2007-03-14 00:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Corie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you asking this? Don't you see that the guy is simply showing his true side and you should get out of this "relationship." That is why he is having problems with his wife...he is a jerk.
2007-03-14 00:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move ten steps back. you're not a punching bag for him. what you're seeing now is his real self. what you saw up to now is his mask for you. he lost his old punching bag(his wife), now he has moved you to that position( what he takes out on her before, he is now using you for it). maybe he moved somebody else to our position and takes out his guilt on you. anyway you see, it is a trap.
2007-03-14 00:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by lasguns bm 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he may be stressed out due to his broken relationship.
wait for some time and he would be with u.
2007-03-14 00:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his wife is causing him a great deal of problems now... forget the jerk and move on...
2007-03-14 00:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop caling him.
2007-03-14 00:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋