Legal Precaution?

Question

Does anyone know what precautionary steps, I can now take, in the order of taking my 15 year old son on excursions of entertainment, so that I'm not accused of his abduction His mother, for no apparent reason has, throughout his life, denied me P.R, conatct, or joint custody, just to be spiteful, but as an automatic right has them, to her aid, as we were never married. Now that my son is 15, we are trying to make a go of things, but his mother constantly thwarts visits/telephone calls, disallows contact, of which he thinks I am the one who keeps letting him down. A prior arrangement with her, regarding shared care and residency, was revoked, via an application to the CSA, which said that I wasn't maintaining or supporting him, a total lie,has led me finally to not have any trust or faith in whatever she says, and means that my son and I both loose out. Her reason for this, was due to me not wanting to re-kindle a relationship with her that had been non existant for over 12 years.

Answer 1

your son is 15 now and i would try and speak to him and ask what HE wants, he is old enough that a court would recognise his wishes and hear them, this woman will only serve to drive her son away in the long term as she is obviously very controlling, she has and indeed is just using your son as a pawn in her silly little game and i really feel for you, it is so refreshing to see a father who actually cares so much about their child to even bother, i would contact a solicitor and see what you can do about contact when both of you want it, she would then have to allow it as he would realise that it was her doing that all the contact has been lost. She is clearly very bitter but you have got to the stage where there is no point trying to reason with her, it gives her the power and control over you that she craves, failing that your son will soon be able to make his own choices without her permission and you clearly love him very much, your son will soon start to make his own decisions, lets just hope he rebels when the hormones kick in, she will be begging you to take him out then just for a break. good luck and your son is very lucky indeed to have a father like you emma

Answer 2

Get a blood test done and a DNA match the next time you're together with him, to prove ligitimacy. After that is done, you can file a petition with the courts for visitation rights on the grounds of parenthood and she can't do a damned thing about it. If she gets nasty and tries to get child support in arrears for the period you were missing, file a suit for interruption of your son's legal right to know his father...but first try and be civil.

Answer 3

your ex wife has used your son as weapon in a war of spite with you. your son must be confused. the main thing is to have your sons interest at heart, not revenge. then, be there for him as much as you can. show him by your actions that you are trying to maintain contact with him. try families need fathers or any other group that will take on your case.

Answer 4

it occurs all the time. thats why we've application protection like norton etc. there is no longer something legally you're able to do. only recover from it and circulate on. and your application propbably used the words 'hacking', even though it only potential another entity, be it internet internet site, pc, individual become attempting to hook up with yours.take a working laptop or pc type and coach your self.

Answer 5

Get a court order outlining what you want to do, where to go and for how many times a year. Also get your chequebook out - sadly!

Answer 6

your son is at an age to make his own mind up who he wants to see and any court will see that. try to see your son and explain that you want contact with him and you wont give up.