We dated 5 years and he left for another chick, we haven't talked since, but when we fight with my husband i miss him so
2007-03-14 00:17:43 · 10 answers · asked by Crocky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are pining for what could have been ....not what is. Time to let go of the dream. Your husband can't possibly compete with a fantasy man who never talks back, forgets or messes up. I thought I was married to the most difficult man on the planet....and its been no picnic, but we have finally worked it out. Men need respect the way we need gentleness and understanding. I joined a church and found my answer. Something brought the two of you together----if you are searching for a steamy romance...chances are so is the person you married.....this is the real work and the real intimacy of marriage...letting go of the dream, the hope that the other person knows you so well that he fulfills your every desire.... its about getting honest, taking risks, loving anyway---love is a behavior, an action, and an attitude...its not a lusty feeling... you can rebuild your marriage and be happier than any dream you can think of.........
2007-03-14 01:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave the ex go, because you are supposed to be married to the one person for you who you love above everyone else. Why would you miss the ex when you and your husband fight? I could see if he were some terrific guy. But obviously that is not the case seeing as he ran off with some other girl.
2007-03-14 00:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
wat u r passing thru is not unique to u, so many other married people experience it. It is just lyk wat u'd experience in any relationship. Its very common for people to compare one person to another; dats wat u r doing in this case.
Wat u need to learn now is to STOP comparing ur husband to any body else, least of all a no-good ex lover "who ran away with another chic".
Every phase in life has ups and downs, even marriage. Just as u guys quarrel and fight, so I'm also sure u have very good times together. Next time u are tempted to think of ur runaway no-good ex, remember that he's d jerk that lost u. That way, u'll be a ble to focus on the man who not only found u but also appreciated being with u to the extent of marrying u. Stay focused!
2007-03-14 00:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by giness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why girl he didn't love you,and your husband care for you enough to marry you. where is your love for your husband. We all have disagreement,but that doesn't mean you shouldn't love your husband. GOD removed that no good man out of your life,and you're thinking about someone who didn't care enough about you to stay with you.Ask Jesus to put those bad thoughts out of your mind, coming from the evilone to hurt your marriage.I bet you when that man left you ,you said to GOD if you send me somebody good I will be very thankful,and he did now you're willing to throw it back in GODS face. Let me tell you,you'll run into your ex who left you so you can make a choice.
2007-03-14 08:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love this other guy, why did you marry someone else? Sounds like you still have unresolved issues, and if you're going to stay married, you'd better resolve them. It's not fair to your husband, or yourself, really, to obsess about an old love. The past is past. Let it go. Live in the present.
2007-03-14 00:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you for another chick... Don't miss him, he doesn't miss you. You are only wishing for the empty promises of a former lover, but do not worry, it happens to all married people.
2007-03-14 00:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have been intimate with your ex for this to happen. This is why it is important not to be intimate before marriage. You will have to learn to accept your past and move on. Give your heart and soul to your husband. Forget your past and look towards the future.
2007-03-14 00:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My adventure become variety of comparable, My EX married his spouse at the same time as he become nonetheless engaged to me, become with me on their wedding ceremony night, and in no way informed me something approximately it. I examine it in the newspaper a pair of week after he have been given married, he had only left my abode that morning, he even married her on my birthday. He nonetheless tried to play it off like he become no longer married taking part in a sport I enjoyed to call one hundred and one diverse procedures to conceal a marriage ring tattoo. He nonetheless anticipated me to be his little secret, it took me a at the same time as to attain that I do deserve my own guy and not individual who's prepared to handle me like that. you ought to discover somebody else. Any guy who will cope with a woman like that rather desires a lesson in know.
2016-11-25 19:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by ximenez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know doesn't this just s uck big time, and why do we think about and miss these guys???? I think its because of the rejection, not because we miss the actual man, its missing the man that really never existed, except in our own mind.
2007-03-14 00:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very common, you miss what you can't have. Give yourself a break and admit you are human
2007-03-14 00:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋