Do you think that when a couple split is it fair for the wife to get half?.?

Question

I am a woman but i am not sure as i stick up for both sides on this one.Both my partner and i were discussing the other night our opinions and we are both for and against,he said why should a man give the money he has earnt himself to his other half,so i said yes but they should as we have had to give up on our career to bring up the children.So there is arguments both ways!.I bet if us women were the bread winners and we were to divorce then the men would want their fair share would nt they -i bet they bloody would!.What do you all think on this?.

Answer 1

I totally agree with you. men would want their share if women were the bread winner. But at the same time when you get married both your money and property become our. its not htis is my or this is mine, isn't it? so, when splitting up both should have their fair share

Answer 2

I think half is fair. Mainly because you are speaking from the position of someone who put there career, or life on "pause" to raise the children. However, if both are working and earning comparable pay, then it's pretty much already half. All that would be left then would be to half the property and figure out what the best living arrangements would be for the children. If the incomes were not equitable, then I think a period of time (usually until the youngest child becomes 18 years old) should be planned (usually what courts do with alimony) to make both homes a bit more equitable. If the children are grown and have left the home, then the property ideas above should hold, but the income probably isn't that big a factor.

Answer 3

If you get married all things should be shared witin the marraige as well as when you get devorced. Even if ne person was a homemeaker. It is the fair thing to do.
If the woman is the homemaker - she did it for the best interest for her family and her husband agreed to it - other wise she would be out there working and probably be earning more then him anyway.

If he is the homemaker than it must be her decition as well to let him stay at home instead of working.
So if it was agreed that one person stay at home than the other can't say upon devorce that the other did nothing so can't get half.

If you are married to a worhless *** who just is to lazy to get a job - than you can argue this point.

I was married to a bum like that - yet when we got devorced he took not just half - he took everything. I got nothing but the clothes on my back and the 2 kids.

I had to stay with family and only got a job 4 years later - It was hard times but today I have worked my way up again and I support my kids, I have a house, car etc. And the bum hasn't bothered once to see his kids but that doesn't bother me I think it's better for them anyway.

My view is that you should rather get a pre - nup even if you love that person - you never know what they really are until it's too late. If you do love that person you can still give them what they need - money and security wise and leave them inheretance should somethiing happen to you.

Answer 4

i don't think that the woman should get half of everything all the time i think it depends on how long the couple has been together if they have been together for awhile had children and the woman is a stay at home mom i say she deserves the money but if its a quickie marriage like alot of them are these days i say take back what you brought in but i do agree if women were the bread winners the men would be fighting for their fair share sort of sad that most women today have to fight and still wait on the whim of the man to pay her the support she deserves and in most cases its kids paying the price for the fighting over cash and assets and that's the real tragedy about divorce.

Answer 5

If you have children then I think the mother should have more if she is going to bring the children up alone. She needs a bigger home to house the children anyway. Likewise if the man brings up the children then he should get more. It can always be agreed mutually or through the courts that the man can have a percentage stake in any property anyway when the children become of an age when they are capable of supporting themselves. If there are no children then I think it should be viewed on its merits. To have 50/50 is not the way to deal with it. All cases are different and I believe that it would stop the "gold digging" that goes on anyway!

Answer 6

I believe that once you are married that all property, monies becomes each others. Unless you have signed a prenupt. I believe that the one that took care of the kids, the house, and the bills, is working just as hard as the one that is out there bringing in the money. So when a couple decides to split I think it should be split down the middle.

Answer 7

Well, I believe that when a couple gets married all possesions and income become shared. Of course, I won't be some homemaker and definitely will never be anyones mother. I'll plan on having a career. I may even end up making a lot more than my lover, but I don't care. What's mine is his and what's his is mine. :) If I'm making enough to support us both and he wants to sit on his butt most of the day and do the chores (like a homemaker), that's cool too!

Answer 8

I agree with you. After all , women give up all kinds of job seniority, pension accumulation interests and other financial related accumulations during the marriage so that we can do what NO MAN CAN DO... WHICH IS CONTINUE THE HUMAN RACE AND HAVE BABIES. What the hell is wrong with men. Are they stupid? That counts for one half or more of everything they have at the time of divorce from the date of marriage, plus alimony on top of it. They want to play but they dont want to wager. They are the inferior race. Tell him to go out and continue all mankind, like a women, or shut the heck up

Answer 9

Marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership.If one works to earn the money and the other one looks after the house and children they are BOTH contributing to the partnership.Therefore if there is a split between the two both should get a fair share as they have both worked for it! (My opinion, for what its worth! )

Answer 10

I agree. Men think its great staying at home all day with the kids. Its a job too. And If you did split. It isn't him thats been out of the work place for years and has to take a lower salary. Or cope with school holidays or when there sick. Im not divorced or bitter. My hubby and I have this debate too.