2007-03-14 00:00:25 · 13 answers · asked by I love you too! 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Thanks for all your answers. For people who cares to read, I add the following example.
When I was 8 months pregnant my husband told me that he has a job offer in another continent and he considers taking it.
I was shocked to my bones when hearing that. For me to have a safe home, when my baby arrives was my own first priority. I was shocked that my husband did not consider that, and was in an dilemma. I did not want to take the opportunity away from my husband, so I wanted to be "good" to him, on the other hand it took away from me so much joy as the move had to be 6 weeks after the birth of my son. So I sold our house and my husband had to move already 2 weeks after the birth.
I did something apparently "good" to meet his needs, still this move and this living with people I did not want to live with for the next 6 months before we rented our own place was not good.
I find it hard to find the right solution in such a case and be a good person and be at peace with myself.
2007-03-14 12:58:34 · update #1
Simplicity is not always the best teacher.
What gets you attention the quickest, adversity or calm?
Love and blessings Don
2007-03-14 03:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This a difficult one, & I'll try not to take forever! I'm really not sure what you mean precisely, about being a "good" person. What you feel about the truth of yourself, or how you feel others think of you? That makes a huge difference. If you feel like being "good," you will--automatically. Generalized, this can mean anything to anyone. To me, it's caring, helping when I can, being sensitive to other people's needs. Yet, recently, some of my friends have suggested I've been too "altruistic" to my own detriment, & because I listen, I realize that I have, & in about 4 situations, my good intentions took some huge bites out of me, physically, financially, & emotionally. The insight I get from this, is that--I can't change my nature, but I CAN be more selective. (Wiser.) It would help if I understood better what you mean by "so hard." I'm sure that's true, but in what way? Wait a minute. It's "hard" for me to be "on call" every day for those who need me, & it can be so draining, you haven't anything left of yourself to give anymore. Is that what you mean? I love provocative questions--I'm gonna go back & give this a star!
2007-03-14 11:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Valac Gypsy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christian theology calls it concupiscence, an inclination toward evil inherited from the Fall.
It's pride really. Sometimes, to do the right thing, we have to deny our own wills, or sacrifice something important to us, material or immaterial. Like Adam and Eve, we want to play God in our own lives, no boundries, no rules. But to be a good person we have to learn to submit to the moral law.
2007-03-14 00:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Blenderx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be because of the high standards of our society in judging a person....
Our very judgmental society is very fond of looking for someone very ideal to say that he or she is good...
people nowadays look for a perfect man....
we must accept the mere fact that there is no such perfect thing...
we could be a good person in our very little way...
And it is better to have something real than wait for that ideal dream....
2007-03-14 00:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by jc retardo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Laziness, it is so much easier, faster, instantly profitable etc. to cheat, lie, steal or not care about anyone else, but it takes a lot of work , intelligence, willpower and control to do the good stuff and ...oh the wonderful consequences.
2007-03-14 03:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because everyone wants to say-hey! Isn't it MY TURN to jump up and down and be a baby? Can't I be the victim? Sympathy is a great gift from others and alot of the time- to be bigger- to grow, to be above the problems-is the harder road---
2007-03-14 04:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dealing with cruel ppl around u... it takes so much effort and self control to be a good person infront of those ppl !!
2007-03-14 04:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One has to be very patient and human beings sometime lack this characteristic
2007-03-14 00:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by remy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being human makes it hard to begood at any time. Being good gets boring, so sometimes it's just easier to be bad.
2007-03-14 00:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
-treat your annoying siblings nicely
-be fair to everyone when y ou dont know everyone
-not be biased. we also lean more on one side than the other
2007-03-14 00:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kyki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋