What is the best way to deal with bullies?

Question

I ONLY WANT TO KNOW SENTENCES OR WORDS THAT CAN KEEP THEM SHUT AND GOBSMACKED, I DONT DO PHYSICAL VOILENCE.
( I get bullied everyday at school and i try to be nice but people ask me if i am gay or they hit me when they feel like it. I get insulted all the time and it really is getting me down and i need help)

Answer 1

You shouldn't have to deal with this bullying alone. You don't have to tolerate that sort of behaviour or think up phrases to get back at them. Tell someone about what is happening to you, a teacher or another adult who you can trust. Bullying is serious regardless of the reason whether it's because you're gay, look differently, act differently or whatever. I was bullied at school & left it far too long before telling someone, I wish I had done something sooner as the longer you leave it the longer you suffer. They have got to be stopped & you don't have to stop them single handedly. I hope you manage to get this sorted out quickly, please seek help.

Answer 2

i was in ur position last year (and b4 but ive left skool yay!!) so i know how horrible, depressing and awful and vile it is! I was bullied cos I was gay. I would say definately tell parents, brothers, sisters, (if you have any) cousins friends etc see if they will support adn give advice. tell teachers but one who does no ***** footing around as many do and then do nothing about it! Maybe arrange your parents to have a meeting wiv your school. In many way I do agree with the no physical violence as Ive heard stories of people who get into trouble for standing up (justice is great ey yeah right!)

I know it sounds stupid but just like maybe look the person up and down and smirk to urself or give that sort of silent facial expression that sez ''have you seen yourself''. Dont forget though to be careful when answering back etc as it could add fuel to the fire. I hope I havent scared you LOL but Im sure you know what I mean. You have to use tactfulness really. I wasnt really good at standing up, I just stuck with my friends some supported me, some laughed with the bullies (gr8 friends) but sort of ensure you are not alone really and whatever you do, make sure that even if you are really scared inside, shaking etc that you look even more confident than them, head up NOT looking to the floor as they generally pick on the ones who look most vunerable!!

Once you leave and meet new people etc youll go further than those bullies - I mean look at how many celebrities have been bullied etc and how they overcome it - so much so that they sooooo superior than their bullies who are probably wishing they kept in with them!!! LOL

Answer 3

I was teased for a decade by the same person and never once said a word to her. I never gave her any reason to pick on me either. I thought that telling her parents was the best answer but that only had a limited effect, and when she started again they wouldn't believe me, despite the fact that she was also treating her step-dad like s**t too. Since then my family and hers have fallen out and they have spread the most unbelievable lies about me and most of their friends look at me like I'm the biggest piece of turd they've ever seen. And all this for telling the truth about being bullied. If I had the chance I'd get a shotgun and shoot the bastard lot of them. That's what I'd do to bullies.

Answer 4

You should get behind the new SOR law being drafted by Government that enforces people to agree with your lifestyle on pain of punishment or imprisonment. This law is being used by the government as a crutch to prop up a philosophy that can't stand up on its own two feet.
If Homosexuals can have a law that forces Christians to agree with their lifestyle, do you think it is fair for Christians to pursue the passing of a law that forces Homosexuals to agree with the Christian lifestyle? Mmm?
For, if you have one law that protects one minority view but not another that protects the victim of that minority view, you have what is generally understood to be the root of a fascist state of mind.
The government are currently rushing through an SOR legislation before there can be a proper debate about this issue.
Without a proper debate and the passing of repulsive laws, the government simply portrays itself as the big bully, and as a collective of so called intelligent people, it loses all credibility as a State.

Answer 5

ALL bullies are cowards.

They can physically hurt you - but they can only hurt you as a person if you allow them to.

When they insult you, just look them in the eye and say, "so?" - you are acknowledging that they have spoken, and showing that their words are of no importance?

Don't let them get under your skin.

I know it is hard. Be strong. Remember, they are only bullying you because they themselves are weak and afraid.

And if there is a teacher you can trust, tell them: your school should have a system for dealing with bullying - and if they are anything like me they will make the bully suffer.

Be yourself. Be strong.

*hugs*
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Answer 6

What they are feeding off of is the fact that you show them that you are really bothered by this. This only fuels bully's fire. If I were you I would play along and laugh. Even though it bothers you if you do this then after a while they will stop bullying you so much. Get to the point where you say to them, "Yeah I'm gay want to go on a date." Try to razz them back about it. They will leave you alone before you know it. I really don't know how old you are. If you told me it might help me a bit more.


Depending on your age if it gets bad enough where you think you are going to get into physical harm. I'd suggest pulling it out. I know I'm gonna get thumbs down for this but if you were gonna get mauled by a bunch of bullies that would be one of your best defenses. Call me crazy. I've saw someone do it before. Plus elementary thru high school this is very effective. And say, "Yeah I'm gay. Want to suck me off." Maybe then they would get all grossed out and leave you alone from then on. But you have to use judgment.

Answer 7

firstly, to meganfofonoff- grow up and stop patronising and insulting other people. you may not approve of homosexuality, but you didn't have to rant and rave like you did. i was appalled by what you have posted.

anyway, report it to your teacher. don't allow this to continue. homophobic bullying well in fact bullying of any kind- whether it's to do with the colour of one's skin, of where they came from, whatever it is, is not acceptable and totally wrong. i understand that it may be hard for you not to react when bigots pick on and torment you and you said you're not into getting into fights with bullies. so the best thing to do is to remain strong and be proud of who you are. if they constantly bully you, then just go up to them and say 'listen, i don't know who the hell you think you are, but if you think that by beating me up and calling me a f*****, is going to get you anywhere, then you are mistaken because it's not and people like you give other people a bad name' or something on the lines of that. samuel, trust me- i've been bullied before when i was at school and kids picked on me because i was chinese, but i got through it still. YOU will get through it- ignore the nasty bigots, if they want to remain ignorant and uneducated, then that's their problem not yours. remember, tell your parents and/or your teachers. take care and i wish you well for the future

Answer 8

first of all you have to stand and face them. if you don't answer when they are teasing you, they will probably continue to do it. imagine what is the worst thing that could happen. to hit you? well they might do it even if you don't respond. now, you ask for a few lines, if you told me what they say for example i would told you exactly lines to say, but since you don't lets try some sentences:
- what are you looking at? you think you're better?
-a classy one (from taxy driver with DeNiro): you talking to me?
- you can also say (i'll try to say it in english as good as i can) : you are gone out of my face already
-go get lost
-find your self something better to do
-go get a life etc.
remember that these bullies are more afraid than you are, that's why they teasing you. if they were truly strong i bet they will pick some guys like them.defend yourself. be strong.
i say all these from experience i had in high school. some bullies we making fun of a boy that had talking problems from an accident he had wen he was newborn. i had to stand up and defend him, cause he like you said nothing. (this thing kept 3 years).I'm sure that you will trust your self. i believe in you,
GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 9

Hello Samuel,

Please tell someone what is happening to you. I was bullied at school because I was gay. What I regret is giving up after telling my dad. He just said 'Fight back'. It's not that easy. One person can not fight back against a crowd.

Tell a teacher or your parents. If they don't listen or do almost nothing, tell another teacher and another until someone listens and takes it seriosuly.

Answer 10

Sometimes you do need to get violent with violent people, if your school won't help you. In grade school, I was bullied every day by one boy, until I finally punched him in the mouth. Then he left me alone. Gangs are different of course. Best to avoid them or to only travel in numbers. Really, your school should be protecting you from this nonsense.