I've not spoken to my close female friend for 4 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. SHE ONLY WANTED TO BE FRIENDS!
We 3 WEEKS AGO at a friends party,we spoke a lot,but she still looked hurt+uncomfortable at times.
Today I asked her if I could add her as my friend on Facebook(via email)THATS ALL I ASKED,NOTHING ELSE.She wrote bck: asking how I am,what she done on her wkn and said I can add her "as a friend lol"
I said how I was and asked NO questions about herself-
SHE WROTE BACK AGAIN, saying I should be having fun with the ladies and to join her appreciation society!Wrote back saying I've been having fun wth other girls-too much fun!(which is the truth!)
She didn't reply-though I asked how her dancing is going-WHY NO REPLY??
I'm shocked as she said via txt 4 weeks ago that the FRIENDSHIP IS OVER!!!Did she mean what she wrote in the txt???
Friendship restarting???POSITIVE SIGNS???
2007-03-13 23:50:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
p.s. only want friendship-nothing more.I've gotten over her now(after another girl!).Only asking if this is positive in terms of FRIENDSHIP - not romanticly!!!
What can I do so that she don't get the wrong idea?
2007-03-13 23:52:10 · update #1
She's pissed, she didn't want to be with you but thought you would take longer to get over her. Her ego's bruised that's all she get over it :)
2007-03-13 23:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by janetlouise24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think you hurt her feelings in the first place when you said that you wanted to get over your feelings for her.
i assume you were very close friends as you say, so you maybe thought that she would understand your situation. you only needed time and space to realise what you felt for her, she was just confused when she found out you didn't want her as a friend.
look, sometimes people want to say something about what they feel, but this doesn't prove do be easy, so the words said just like that are hurting the people we mostly love.
i'm sorry about your friend, i know you care about her and didn't mean to hurt her, but that is what you have done.
now, in order to 'fix' things, call her back, try to explain that you were going through a very difficult situation and all what you wanted to do was to 'have a break'; but all these weren't involving her, even if she was caught in the middle.
i believe she would understand. i hope you have a nice friendship from here on.
2007-03-14 04:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by AnneMarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
qthe only way to find out what she is thinking is to ask. If she values your friendship then she will make the effort to explain her feelings.
2007-03-13 23:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by kelley k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me she really hasnt got over you and its hurting her just to be firends, everytime you are texting her it is hurting her more i would just let her go and get on with your life and let her get on with hers.
2007-03-13 23:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by lindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep asking the same question
go and speak to her in person if you are so concerned
2007-03-13 23:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋