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I am in a role reversal marriage. My husband stays home full-time and I work as an attorney.

I recently decided to host a dinner party - and I did all of the cooking. I never cook, but decided to venture.

I wore a nice cocktail dress to the party, but also opted to wear a hostess apron to protect my dress. It was very pretty (green and red floral). At the party the wife of one of my associates goes, "So you're wearing an apron. Looks like you are giving up on being super career woman. Shouldn't your husband wear one too?"

What should I make of that comment? Yes it was stupid, but is it true. Is wearing an apron a sign of regression after all I worked for to become a sole breadwinner and independent woman?

2007-03-13 23:43:55 · 21 answers · asked by Claudia 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

21 answers

That person was being a fool. Its like saying someone is a 'goth' or something when they are wearing all black.

Make nothing of that comment.

Just because you wore an apron and cooked once doesn't mean you are automatically a 'house wife'.

That person was being rude and idiotic like you said. Maybe use that apron to strangle the person next time.

2007-03-13 23:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 1 0

No, not at all. That woman was just being stupid and cocky.

You were wearing an apron to protect your cocktail dress, and you were cooking for the fun/pleasure of it.

Don't worry about it. Even if you are a career woman, there's nothing wrong with helping out around the house from time to time (as most women wish their husbands would do).

2007-03-13 23:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No. It is adding to your resume' of skills. I wear a plain apron when I cook and clean but if I am giving a dinner party or even just for the two of us if I "frock up " I wear a pinafore apron with shoulder and hem ruffles. I figure if I am going to wear an apron it may as well be "super girlie" so any comments are usually said with a grin and very light hearted.

2007-03-14 21:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by G G 2 · 0 0

The woman that made the comment is obviously jealous of the fact that you can combine a career with hosting a dinner party! What a ridiculous comment. I would have worn an apron in the circumstances - to protect my dress - don't listen to people like that, they are just envious!!

2007-03-13 23:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0 0

I wouldn't make too much out of that woman's comment. Sounds like she's just got something crawled up her bum. Wearing an apron is a common sense move on your part to protect your clothes and anybody who would put that down has issues of their own they need to deal with.

I wonder though, if you decided to wear an apron to subconsciously let your guests know that while you can bring home the bacon, you can also cook it up and serve it too. Bragging a little? I would. Be proud of yourself that you can, you give hope to the rest of us who aren't quite there yet.

2007-03-13 23:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 1 0

I positioned on aprons each and all the time whilst i'm at abode cooking and cleansing, my husband wears an apron additionally. i'm no longer likely into the old school cotton aprons that ladies of the 60s wore, I choose %lined aprons, plenty extra handy to scrub, only rapid wipe down when I even have complete cooking.

2016-09-30 21:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

keeping your clothes protected is not a relection on your grey matter or your skills in the workplace. If you are good at what you do, and can cook too, any man is lucky to have you and most women who don't do the same should be jealous of you and your ability to do so. As for that comment, she probably was jealous of you. If it makes you feel better, alot of career men wear aprons when they barbeque too. Does that make them any less powerful in their work or any less manly? I doubt it.

2007-03-14 00:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 2 0

While I agree it is a stupid comment, I don't think it was jealousy - just stereotypes. The apron has been established as a stereotype with the housewife. Although I think nowadays, it is becoming a fashion trend.

That being said, while I don't think it was wrong. You have to be aware of the perceptions that are out there.

2007-03-13 23:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by L.A. Scene 3 · 0 0

No regression. Your colleague is either book smart, no common sense or simply jealous. Do what works for you, don't worry about others. And if you did not wear the apron you probably would have ruined your dress. Good luck and God bless****

2007-03-13 23:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0 0

Never mind what the women said, the interesting thing here is how fragile your sense of yourself as a professional is that you would allow an off-hand (or even deliberate if you want to interpret it that way), off the cuff comment unsettle you. Make nothing of the comment (as it really carries little weight since the evidence clearly counters the statement anyway) and make a greater deal of how unsettled you were by this comment.

2007-03-14 00:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 0 1

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