this girl ive known from september started fancying my friend i have known for two years. he and i were very close and he declined her 'advances'. he was very open about the fact he didn't feel the same. then in january i found out he was going out with her and none of them had told me (they wanted to keep it quiet from me). since then i have been left out and i don't talk to much. i know they discuss me when i am not around. i have lost a long term friend and this girl was my friend but i feel distant from her aswel. how can i rise above this and feel positive?
2007-03-13 23:20:35 · 7 answers · asked by MJ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
they admitted they were keeping it quiet from me on purpose.. this shook me up a bit :(
2007-03-13 23:27:16 · update #1
thanks for your great answers guys :) it cheers me up
2007-03-14 00:01:52 · update #2
Well welcome to the world of young love--sorry to hear that this happened--but on a brighter note, millions of kids do this and it all boils down to--hey, what can we say--it happened !! People find each other and start to date--because of your friendships they probably delayed it as long as possible---just couldn't wait any longer.....despite how you feel, they are going to date--so get a grip, wish them luck--give it time and you will all be friends again--so look for a guy of your own, have fun, smile----good luck. You aren't going to explode over this--cheer up--you probably will meet a nice guy real soon !!
2007-03-13 23:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rising above it means you know they're not worth your time to worry about it. You have better things to put your good energy into. I've always been an outcast and knew I never wanted to be an incast. I'm happy with who I am and if they don't care for it, it's no loss to me.
It'll take time, but you need to remind yourself not to lower your level to be accepted by others like that.
2007-03-14 07:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by Heyjay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL
don't be mad at them
they juz wanna keep it quiet so that it won't upset u
they are still ur fren but they are closer now that's all
take it as an advantage to go get new f renz
but still stay in touch with them
u can think possitive
2007-03-14 06:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by astrid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't assume that they didn't want to keep it quiet from you.
love does not boast according to the bible.
and when a couple is together, usually the friends are hurt because they can't get inbetween them.
you'll feel better. you have to have one really close friend you can trust. so even if she has a boyfriend, she'll still care for oyu.
2007-03-14 06:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by John Becker 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
girl...
i think your wrong... base on what you have told us... i might say that the two of them are not wrong... your just the one thinking like that... why don't you confront the two of them and asked them what was happening between them... it is your fault if you lost a long term friendship because of that girl....if i where you i would forget about them and forgive what they have done, if there is... start a new friendship with others and make the last friendship be the basis of making your new friendship strong...
2007-03-14 06:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you had your chance
and wouldn't take the shot
like the oleb saying either sh*t
or get off the pot
both are your friends
and now they're in their zone
be glad cause one day you too
will find a true love that's your own
2007-03-14 06:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
y dont u bc urself wid other matters n forget abt them
2007-03-14 08:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by @LpHi!i 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋