Im currently with this guy whom i love and he loves me.
but since the beginning hes always eyed up girls in the street, and even spoke of some girls being too good for him...? when talking about our sexual past, hes not interested in mine, but he says he has slept with 38 woman in his lifetime. and used to cheat on his girl/f when he was in a 3 year relationship with her when he was 16-19. then when they broke up they still slept with each other on occasions.? (unprotected too)
He has had a case of genital warts a while back before i met him... and he was sleeping with a girl 2 weeks into our relationship, then he told her where to go (apparently). i believe him.
Now 10 months on into us- i sometimes feel worried hes cheating and because he always laughs when accused i feel like its a big joke on me?? but it angers him and he threatens me with kicking me out. but i still cant tell if its my paranoia or my instincts... i need help tho :(
2007-03-13 23:17:41 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In the meantime, he says he loves me and me accusing him of cheating is making him feel like he cant make me happy... and he always looks upset afterwards...
anh says that he has found his girl and wants to settle with me, and move away...
but i still feel hes hiding and lieing just from the way hes teased me and talked to me about things in the past...
i really dont know what to do....
2007-03-13 23:24:10 · update #1
well last night i went out dancing class... and he was calling me and checking what time i was home...
he rang me when i finished class and asked me what time my train is due... it was an hour off and i told him that.. and he thought about picking me up...
but he didnt as he was low on petrol and had no money.
afterwards got off the train in the town and he wasnt there on time to meet me... so i started walking up..
it was 10.20pm and as i got further up this long road i saw something ... it was him as i got further i noticed a girl with dark hair and a nice jacket on walking off fast...
i kinda had a feeling that something had maybe happened with her... and i said she looks to posh for you anyway" he shrugged and said "well ya kno"
hes fallen out with me now and said i should think about moving out , as ive benefited him in having a good reason to split up and hes not angry about it.
my paranoia has pushed it too far .....
2007-03-13 23:31:39 · update #2
but how can you tell if its paranoia or reel feelings
2007-03-13 23:33:28 · update #3
aw that is the worst feelin in the world isnt it. wot u really need 2 ask urself is, if u cnt trust him or believe that he's changed, do u really want 2 put urself thru this torment?
i do believe ppl change an these kind of relationships work, me n my partner r livin proof, but u hav 2 believe it wi all ur heart cos the doubt will eat u up an ruin everythin between u.
gud luck! xx
2007-03-13 23:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by debs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job? If so start saving your money if he is threatening to kick you out now you should just spare him and leave him alone he is no good, start saving your money or go stay with family members untill you can get your own place he is a loser so don't put yourself through all the grief he will give you when you do find out he has cheated again on you already and most likely still is.
2007-03-13 23:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your instincts
and you already know it.
I hope you are practicing protected sex with him, because men like that do not tend to change.
Don't accuse him. He won't admit it if he is and it will only anger him more. In fact he will probably feel justified in his actions because of your accusations.
Prepare yourself for moving on, and then do it. He has a roving eye and has a past history of cheating. They don't change, they just find girls who accept that they cheat, or girls who don't notice until it is too late.
You knew when you asked.
2007-03-13 23:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Chali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW...I was in your position for four years. I was made to feel like there was something wrong with me. No matter how many of my friends told me I was being used I didnt listen. Deep down I knew they were right. I knew there were other women, the signs were there. Then..I had no choice to believe it. I contracted an STD from this man. It quite curable but my selfesteem is harder to get back. Men who cheat are men who cheat...they WILL NOT CHANGE..
2007-03-13 23:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by scalawagsdream 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he has changed, the fact that you can't trust him has some major ramifications. A relationship is never going to outlast distrust. You need to either completely put it all out of your mind and call the past the past or decide you can't trust him and leave. I'd rather leave than be thrown out simply due to indecision.
2007-03-13 23:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by shes_apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is a WHORE. S L U T. Masculine varlet.
DUMP HIM. Again, DUMP HIM. In all likelihood he is a sex addict who will nothing but break your heart over and over again. His continual horrible behavior is only a means of testing how much you'll put up with. Men like him enjoy having a doormat of a woman who will take anything from them while they go out and play the field.
Again, DUMP HIM.
2007-03-13 23:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Guernica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the guy. Start anew with a new guy. As far as I understand, with or without warts he is still selfish.
2007-03-13 23:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by joulsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry this man loves women too much if you stay he will have another women hidden away somewhere are you prepared to put up with it or get out before it gets nasty
there is always somewhere to go to get away from this chancier
2007-03-13 23:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just trust him for now.
he's innocent until proven guilty. not trying to say it in a bad way but he probably changed and wants to prove to you something.
gotta leave the past behind. you'll figure it out. goodluck to you!
2007-03-13 23:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with this man? He is not worthy of you! I think you are showing yourself as a doormat to him. Tell him to go wipe his feet elsewhere!
2007-03-13 23:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋