that they cheated on their husband and this person has children. I told them to end their cheating and keep out of contact with the other person. Do you think i am right to keep their secret even though they are doing the wrong thing. It's so hard because i am the only person they trusted not to say anything and i won't because of the kids. do you think this is right thing for me to do.
2007-03-13 23:15:41 · 18 answers · asked by debra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is selfish of them to put you in that position in the first place. Why should you keep it a secret when it's nothing to do with you?
2007-03-13 23:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is your friend continuing the relationship with the person she cheated with? Or has she realized the error of her ways and wants to do the right thing for her husband and children. If she made a mistake and has turned her back on the person she cheated with, then I say keep her secret and let her move on with her life. On the other hand, if she continues to cheat and wants you to keep that secret, then I would tell everything I knew and let her deal with the consequences of her behavior. She shouldnt have put that burden on you.
2007-03-14 08:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a promise not to tell. Unless the children are in danger, you need to keep that secret now. What they did wasn't right but it may cause some awful damage to open it all up now. I don't know how long I could keep the secret if my friend continues to cheat, only you can decide when enough is enough.
2007-03-14 06:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by shes_apples 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough question..........i had a husband that was cheating on me and i finally divorced him........a woman told me that while i was in the hospital he was messing around with my best friend..........i am glad she told me because i would of wasted many more years with this husband....if you are pretty sure this has stopped i would stay out of it for now..and i myself would stay away from them as much as possible because you really do not need in their problems.......it is tough on the kids but this is not your doing...but i would say go with your concious...it is hard to tell someone else what to do.....but this is not right and it will do nothing but cause pain and heartache for many.............
2007-03-14 06:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of this one. It's really not your business. Although it is understandable that you're worried about the children but there's no way you can help in this situation.
2007-03-14 06:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by irmaynerds 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing, is to not get involved... obviously they cheated for a reason, and that reason may never go away... just be a friend, but tell them you aren't interested in anything to do with their infidelity..
2007-03-14 06:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her since she's cheating if it okay if you f u c k her husband since she doesn't seem to care about him anyway. Who knows, it might be fun for you too.
2007-03-14 08:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If keeping the secret gives peace and comfort you should keept it secret.
2007-03-14 06:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the right thing to do. Don't even mention it to your husband.
2007-03-14 06:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by del 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not tell anyone and inform this person of your views and morals on this subject and ask to not be further involved.
It is not your place.
2007-03-14 07:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋