I was once a monogamous faithful loving guy. After being screwd three times in three different relationships. I stopped looking for serious relationship. I started to have friends with benefits. Sexes and companionships from different women are something I have in abudance, but I feel so lonely and empty all the time. Why am I so unsatisfied ?
2007-03-13 23:14:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been in a committed relationship for over 21 years and have never felt lonely and empty because of my wife, and we have great sex. I just have it with the same person every time. You feel unsatisfied because sex itself doesn't fill the void a committed relationship can. I had 2 failed relationships where I got screwed too before I met my wife. Don't give up just yet. There is someone out there that can not only satisfy you sexually, but emotionally too.
2007-03-14 00:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I too was once monogamous, faithful and loving but I am a woman. I thought a friends with benefit program would be better than getting screwed over (both emotionally and financially) so I got one and it has lasted 3 years. The problem is that it is with a very unhappily married man with no kids that cannot leave his wife (probably because he cannot give up his money).
I feel lonely and empty all the time too and I believe that friends with benefits cannot give you what your heart wants and that is to feel loved and cared for.
2007-03-13 23:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the core of your being you are that monogamous faithful guy. You're the kind of man most women dream about finding. Unfortunately, you haven't met the right woman yet. The reason you're feeling lonely and unsatisifed is because sex without love and the commitment of marriage is meaningless, it's just the physical act. You need to find the right woman and marry her, then you'll feel loved and satisfied.
2007-03-13 23:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SenoritaFartsALot reporting....Hmmmm, so you want to know what a committed relationship has over a friend "with benfefits"? Well I'll tell you in a nutshell.
First of all, it sounds like you are not dating the right women. You just happened to date the wrong women that affected the way you think about relationships now. For the most part, a monogomous relationship is good (for the most part) because it nearly insures that your partner isn't spreading diseases and coming back and bringing them home to you. Friends with benefits is just gross honey. Imagine, all of these "friends" you've got there are as gross as your ex girlfriends. Do you actually think these "friends" care about you? They are all just after another piece of tube steak! Then after they let you double dip in their dunkin hole- they're running off and getting plowed in the cornhole by the lawnboy! This is exactly why you are unsatisfied, b/c you are not hanging around real women! A real woman will lie you down and treat you like a man, she will worship you, and give you pleasures you never even dreamed of and treat you with respect. Friends with benefits will just benefit by giving you a lovely gift of STD's! This is ol' SenoritaFartsALot signing off.
2007-03-13 23:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by Senorita Farts A Lot 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You feel lonely and unsatisfied because you lack the intimacy that relationships have. And I'm not talking sexual intimacy either; I'm talking about emotional, spiritual, knowing things that only a few people know about the person you are in a relationship with, type intimacy.
2007-03-14 00:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by midnightstar122281 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you got frustrated after three different women did you wrong, so you gave up and let go of of what your heart really wanted. You started making choices that are not what you really want, as they are empty and do not give back to you what you are seeking. You denied your true self by giving into emptyness and only allowing your self as you put it friends with benefits.
People should never give up their hearts dream of having what you want. We need to be more observant of what we are getting into with others and make better choices for our selves. It is often so difficult because people want to hide their real and true selves and show people what they think the person wants. So when the real person comes out we feel cheated because they are not the people that we thought they were.
Don't give up on having what you want as there are countless people out there seeking the same thing that you are. The task at hand is weeding out the people who are dishonest and none caring, selfish people who are only in it for them selves and what they can get and then run on to the next person.
I've been there my self. It got so bad that I've even said that "I think the person who I am suppose to be with died at birth or was hit by a car!" God I hope not, as I'm still searching I know that he is out there. I just need to find him. It just may be that he wasn't ready to be with me yet, I will find him.
What I'm saying is don't give up on your self and only give your self part of what your looking for since you deserve a good relationship. Take things slower with the women you go out with, be more selective in your choices. Don't be so quick to call it love.
Best wishes to you, I know that you will find the person with whom you are ment to be with. It will happen, I guess it just some times takes time for it to happen. Just don't short change your self and end up feeling so empty. When it get bad some times it's best to take a break, rather than end up feeling empty.
2007-03-13 23:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because a friends with benefits relationship lacks the emotional intimacy and security that being in a commited relationship has. Find yourself a woman who's interested in pursuing something more. It's what you want.
2007-03-13 23:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits have no emotional ties.
A committed relationship is just what it says, a commitment that hopefully both are equally committed to.
Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-13 23:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because the system(our Western education and media propaganda) has taught you not to enjoy anything so decadent without expecting to have to pay for your sins. Enjoy the ride while it lasts; they aren't going to let you get away with it for long. The 'haters' are among us!!!
2007-03-13 23:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
because there is no deep emotional ties n your relationship
2007-03-13 23:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋