I am confused. I do not understand alcohol problems a sI do not have one. My recent ex partner binge drank and was aggresive and horrible to me at times, a really bad drunk. He said that he could not control his behaviour as it was not really him as he was drunk, but he likes drinking as he is a young man.I seem to think that he knew what he was doing but his inhibitions where lowered. So what I want to know is do you think that a person can be so disrespectful and uncaring to another to endanger them, but not really be responsible as they use the excuse of drinking????
2007-03-13 22:33:29 · 15 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Alcohol reduces inhibitions and tends to intensify the emotional state prior to the alcohol consumption. (if feeling resentful, you may become abusive, if feeling happy, you may become hysterical and funny, if feeling depressed you may become suicidal)
The "control" should be exercised prior to becoming intoxicated. Your partner now knows how he reacts when he gets drunk. If he keeps doing it, he is choosing to be abusive to you.
He bears full responsibility for his actions. His excuses are a cop our for his poor judgment and insensitivity to the others that he hurts by choosing to indulge in this behavior.
2007-03-13 22:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by danny_boy_jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very sad but ur partner is fully aware of what he is doing while he is drunk. These are the signs of a bad relationships dearie. This is high time now cos this will worsen with time. If u ignore these signs then u might regret one day. Stand up for ur rights and stop him either by breaking up or tell police next time he does the same . I guess he not a very nice person to live with. Take my advice my ex-bf was one hell of a psychic and i have had the same kind of experience but i must tell u dont make ur life a hell. It was bad in my case now i am happy today cos my hubby is such a nice guy and he is very understanding . now i know what life and love is ... so leave him as soon as possible. People who become violent can go to any level. so remember that. Read the signs and act, so that u don't have to pay later heavily.
2007-03-13 22:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by Preet_Answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding. He has control....he could just not drink. Drinking is never an excuse to treat someone with disrespect or be aggressive. I was married to a binge drinker. A weekend alcoholic. I am glad he is your ex because you deserve way better than that. Trust me. It took me way to long to figure that out. Being drunk is just the easy excuse to give.
2007-03-13 22:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by belle4623 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Violent drunks say they can't control their behaviour. But you will notice that he has enough control to hit you and not somebody who can hurt him. Being drunk is just an excuse to express what a truly vile person he really is.
2007-03-13 23:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol is an excuse...NOT the reason. He needs to see a counselor to find out what his problems are (given there is violence involved), then go to AA meetings. Seriously, I would tell him real quick if he doesn't get help for himself, you will leave the relationship because you can't help him. He has to want it, he has to start it himself. You can help him as he goes through it, but he has to initiate all the help.
2007-03-13 22:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't handle his alcohol he needs to stop and yes people can't handle it but you cannot reason with a drunk either nor can you talk to him, your best bet would be to leave him because if he is verbally abusive he can become physically abusive, or you can stay and take the excuses he gives you..
2007-03-13 23:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my boyfriend have the same problem, when he drinks vodka he is evil!! and i mean evil! its like he is posessed or something, he also left me in the dark to walk home alone in a dangerous area, this happened twice. We broke up about it and since then he wont touch vodka, only beer. Tell your bf to drink beer it is a happy drink. You will see the difference. Just lay off the hard stuff. Good luck,
2007-03-13 22:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by wonder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people like to say that drinking brings out the truth and sometimes it does its almost like a dream something you like to dream about and somthings you dont and sometimes you cant remember your dreams and not know why i drink alot at times and it all various as to why i say or do some of the things that i do but it all goes back to knowing that your a diffrent way when your drunck and if your partner dosent like it and your not willing to change then leave him alone
2007-03-13 22:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by khissmyputtytat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
responsible ? No they are drunk, "Accountable" YES, they put the drink to their heads, I acted the same way when I was a young man, luckily I realized that this does NOT work, and I no longer drink.
2007-03-13 22:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are always responsible for their actions. Unfortunately that can be extenuating circumstances in a court of law. Sorry m'lud I was drunk.
OK you naughty boy - I will let you off with a warning.
2007-03-13 22:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋