Suppose you are sincere. Both fulfill different needs & you are nice to both of them. Is it okay then? Just how much do we operate under the layered, rigid, societal norms? And how much of breaking-free is okay when you feel justified at a deeper level?
2007-03-13 22:32:04 · 30 answers · asked by x f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no
2007-03-13 22:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by fraunkensteen 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you want to go around shagging the town, let you partner know so they can go out and do it too. You talk about rigid norms. What about the decaying of truth and promises?? You obviously think your good at cheating on you partner, you also seem good at being a complete feral with no conscience.
2007-03-14 07:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by shes_apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're spouse is in agreement then ok otherwise trying to break out of the rigid societal norms to be independent is going to hurt the other person regardless of your justification. Thinking he/she will never find out is naive or ignorant (not sure which). people behave differently when they keep secrets and to take the chance and risk hurting the person you're supposed to love isn't worth it, to me anyway.
2007-03-14 05:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they both (or several perhaps) have given you permission; then of course, society says this is a no no.
That doesn't for one second mean you are going to stop doing it, so try not to hurt anyone.
Also, you shouldn't have children and this will ruin your marriage eventually. Perhaps next time you should remain single and date and be in charge of your own life. Even in dating, society seems to demand monogamy, but at least a date can't sue you for divorce and take everything away from you.
a divorce now is your best option.
2007-03-14 05:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself how un-hurt you would feel if your partner had an affair and tried to justify it by telling you that the "other" one and you both fulfilled different layers of needs.
2007-03-14 05:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call it by any name, put forth any excuse. Infidelity will remain infidelity. We all live in a society and hence we must obey its laws. Having an extra marital affair is like a sword hanging over your head round the clock. Be faithful to your partner and if your life has become monotonous, find ways to rejuvinate it .
2007-03-14 06:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by Vikas A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having an extramarital affair without hurting your partner is like being just a little bit pregnant. There is no such thing!
2007-03-14 05:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just think that if your partner would've asked this question, what would you've feel? you can not have extramarital affairs without hurting your partner, because the day that she will come to know ... it's better you talk to her and decide to separate
2007-03-14 08:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by sweetdreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not ok to have affair, i should know, my ex husband had affair and four years later the kids and i are still trying to get over it everyone gets hurt and know one ever gets what they really want out of it anyway, and affairs are never forgiven or forgotten
2007-03-14 07:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by platformer70 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
extramarital affairs are not acceptable in the society, and even morally its wrong. Put yourself in your partner's shoes and think for a sec. How would you feel if he/she was having an extramarital affair?????
2007-03-14 05:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If you really loved her, you would realise that you would hurt her when she trusted you. If an ham and egger like you had an Indian princess like me, you would not need to cheat! But, losers like you always try to find some reason to cheat.
2007-03-14 16:43:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋