i have known my mates for all my life and yet everytime i need them most they are not there for me and when they need me i m always there. What should i do? cuz they are my besties...
2007-03-13 22:29:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
then you shoud figure out weather you need or want them in your life i narrow my friends down to the ones who are there and if they arent then your better off without them cause if they arent with you there against you
2007-03-13 22:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by khissmyputtytat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't be your besties ,cuz best friends are always there and know when your down and having trouble without you even having to say or do something.. they might be your Friends .. I guess.. but not really close.. but talk to them about it... tell them how you feel, but don't back out cuz two wrongs never make a right...
2007-03-14 07:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Corie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I have had this friend since 2nd grade, we were always hand in hand, besties. But when I need help with something, she can't help me but when she is stuck in some situation, I'm always there to help. She decided to stay at school and go a dance with her bf and I told her "Whatever.", I had to walk home is the pouring rain with no jacket or umbrella that day, and the next day she expected me to give her a ride to school cause it was raining, i did but she is never there for me.
I stopped being her friend, not told her 'your not my friend anymore, leave me alone" but I stopped talking to her. I found other friends. I met some at the mall, I have online friends, others at school and more. They are always there for me, if I embarrass myself, they embarrass themselfs right there with me. If I need somewhere to stay, they're door is always open. My other "friend" didn't even invite me to her birthday, but she invited herself to mine. Tell them that your feeling left out. And if they continue to be mean, get new besties. My friend was using me, they are probably using you too. It's like a popular kid using a nerd to do their homework, you know? Just leave before it gets worse. <333
2007-03-14 06:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by ___² 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kath, you already know what to do... you feel it in your heart already... these mates only take and never give back...maybe you feel great because you made a difference in the relationship and that was plenty... but like all flowering relationships, usually... it's symbiotic... they help each other grow... despite knowing that you made a difference in their lives, your trust and loyalty towards them has been wavering... sounds like a long time now... i know what I would do, I would just begin to ignore their calls and if i happen to meet them, i'd just say i'm busy... kath, take care of your needs first... they do not reciprocate... they basically feed off your good nature... you cannot ever change them in this lifetime nor another. the only difference you can make is within yourself... and that can take moments, days or even years... just choose and the path will reveal itself to you...
2007-03-14 05:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they really aren't your besties...
Find someone who really is. A person who'll be there when you've got problems or when you need help.
2007-03-14 07:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to assess where u are meeting these people at. My friends are college students/grads and religious people. They are there for me when I need them and vice versa. Last minute rides to/from the airport, moving, car wreck-pick me up in middle of night, she used me, etc. They have been there because they are good people and you don't meet them at bars and clubs.
2007-03-14 06:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eih i think they not really your friend..talk to them and tell them how you feel then if they still act that way maybe it's time for you to leave them and look for a real bestfriend..i think you don't need someone who will be by your side during sunny days..you need someone to be with you all the time..good luck
2007-03-14 06:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by queen_maan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not best friends.
If they were, they would offer support and guidance.
Find better friends.
Get out there, find new cool friends and let the true you shine through!
bless
me ;D
2007-03-14 05:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they were besties they would be there always,find someone who is
2007-03-14 05:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definitally understand what your saying and how you feel. i usually tell my friends straight up how it is but in a nice way.
2007-03-14 05:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋