I get to know this guy about 3 months, and we are getting alone well, we celebrate my birthday and his birthday together, and we sing a love song together on his birthday.
In my image, he is a more conservative, and not so outgoing person. He talks to his friends when we hang out together, but he dones't talk as much as his friend.
when we go out on weekend, we talk a lot too, but in daily work day, he rarely calls me, when he talks, he tells me exact things, and ask me some questions, but it is more like communication at work, not like lovers hanging on the phone talking for nothing. Yesterday we talked shortly, and I ask him to email something to me today, he did it so efficiently by yesterday, so that I see it in the morning when I open my computer.
The problem is, I need you guys to suggest, how do I improve the relationship? what would a guy like him need me to do to help us talk to each other more often, and have him call me more frequenctly??? thanks a lot.
2007-03-13 22:16:49 · 13 answers · asked by Caring Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I mean, not talking during work. I never expect to chat like that at work (even I don't like it myself) , I mean, week day at night after wrok.
2007-03-13 22:40:58 · update #1
Does every couple (who don't live together) talk to each other every night over the phone? would the relationship keep continuing if both don't talk to each very often (like every other day)?
2007-03-14 14:04:59 · update #2
what u can do is try to call him urself try to give signals that u r cool with talking to him maybe then he will call u also.and just wait dont push things cus when someone runs after u too much u start to run away..dont throw urself
2007-03-14 06:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try too hard. Try this simple technique that requires lot of patience & observation.
1. Understand what "he" likes
2. Do small, very small things that will make him happy. Like things to do with what he likes. Like sending flowers. Like writing a poem & mailing. Like cooking a snack & sending it to him as surprise. Like sending him a book he likes....
3. Write an email to him everyday inthe morning... just one mail, saying how much you appreciate him being there in your life.. but keep writing for atleast 2 weeks
After 2 weeks see the difference.
2007-03-14 05:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by x f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - If you want him to talk, you must be a good listener. Find out his interests and learn more about it and ask interesting questions.
Second - Get him to think of you more often. He should recall you as the first person with whom he wants to share any information and ask for suggestions.
Third - Pls understand that he has work to be done and stop disturbing him too much.
2007-03-14 06:20:38 · answer #3 · answered by r_ranjith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Why can't you girls except a guy the way he is??? Why do you always feel the need to change a guy in some way or the other. If he talks too much you want to know how to get your two bits in, if he talks less you want to make him talk more. Why do girls always want things their way? I suggest to find happiness in what you have. If you keep trying to get things your way he will soon show you the doorway.
2007-03-14 17:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is at his job he is getting paid to work for the company, not moon around on the phone with his girl friend. He is evidently a diligent person and doesn't want to let his work or performance slide because he is whispering sweet nothings with you. Understand that when he is at work, he has an obligation to do his job and let him alone.
2007-03-14 05:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not see anything wrong in his attitude why did u think tat lovers r supposed to talk at night ..chat a lot ..i believe he has his own limits in his relationship so better u prolong like this as the days grows he will change according to u ..r u will try adopting to him ...understanding is the first step to love..see it is one needs to talk and one needs to listen but i would also tell u to put this across to him k
2007-03-14 06:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by tamanaahamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not force anything. either it is there or it is not. if he does not like talking to lovers on the telephone-why make him do something that makes him feel awkward? three months is three months. How old are you? figure out how important 3 months is as a percentage of your time on earth.
2007-03-14 05:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Just remain normal, as you both understand each other's needs.
2. Have faith on each other.
3.Respect each other.
4.Trust each other.
5.Never discuss your life partner before any one in the world except himself. Same is valid for him as well.
2007-03-14 05:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by neela m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did u ever had any bf before or else check out .... signals are not so happy for .... to improve him is impossible ...
have u seen "dil chata hai" he is the time table type ..i will get pissed off very much soon if ur party goer etc ... talk to him and find out ... all the best
2007-03-14 05:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see ,dont get worried my bf is also a bit reserve types but i love him a lot and i know he loves me too. if u know dat ur bf loves u a lot than dont be tensed just try 2 get along him wid his type of nature.
2007-03-14 07:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by suhani k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋