is a girls beauty a condition for a man to fall in love with his wife ? , or is it the love that a wife gives him ?
now men plz !
supposing u married a girl against ur wishes , due to family and cultural obligations , and u used to be in love with a girl for 6 yrs , but she got married 5 yrs back and is a mother of 2 kids , will u still luv her ?
and will u fall in luv with ur wife at least some yrs later ?
2007-03-13 22:00:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A man after marriage would love his wife not for physical looks or beauty; but "for partnering him" in the journey of love. and love, physical needs, humour, sharing, caring everything else comes and is a part of the journey after marriage. On your 2nd question, the man would still love his ex after she gets married; but only for a while. Eventually after sometime, he will accept the facts, and get more practical. Seems you are facing such a situation. God bless you. The man who is your husband will soon become your love.
2007-03-13 22:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by x f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your husband will never forget the other girl as if she never existed. He will remember her time to time and may regret what he could do in his past to avoid that situation. But that should not harm your couple relationship as your husband knows that's about past, and he is having his responsibilities towards you and your children. Of course he will love you, physical relationship is a great tonic. That helps loving someone and since you are married now ... no, of course he will love you.
Also, a lot depends on how is your relationship. Whether he feels if he would be happier with the other girl or he feels that he is happier with you. The more he will think that his life could have been better with someone else and if he is not happy with you for some reason, irrespective of whether he had someone oneday or not, your marriage relationship can ruin, as then he will search elsewhere what he is missing with you. And vice versa ...
2007-03-14 02:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by www.vedicearth.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm married and I married because I genuinely loved my wife. I can't imagine marrying and NOT loving her at the time. I guess it's possible to love someone with time but I think it's sad to marry someone that you don't love right then and there at the time you actually go through the ceremony.
I've dated a lot before getting married and there were a couple of them I really cared about but it didn't work out for one reason or another. In a way, I'll always care about them but I like to think that I'm more mature now, I'm married and that chapter of the book of my life is over. I've moved on emotionally.
2007-03-13 22:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone pushed into a marriage, after having seen what opportunities has been missed will probably be resentful of the marriage, at least at some times during the marriage.
Most cultures that force marriages, also endure unhappy relationships that are generally not monogamous on the male's part.
2007-03-13 22:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many cultures have pre-arranged marriages. That is a decision only you can make. Keep your secret, you do not say how the married lady with the children feels about you. There are many people involved here, to save hurting anyone, maybe you could just have fantasies about what might have been. Good luck, better that you be miserable than to ruin your family, and her family .
2007-03-13 22:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd become a drama writer for daytime soap operas.
If I was in the predicament you have stated, I would stay within the current relationship. What is done is done. Re-living the past can sometimes backfire because things can't be repeated. People and situations change. It's best to live within the present and work towards the future.
2007-03-13 22:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man but my hubby says that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You see, beauty is more than meets the eye and it is actually what come from your heart matters. Let me give you an example: a beautiful girl comes but open her mouth she speaks vulgar words and rough language. On the other hand, there is this simple looking girl, but the way she talks gently, her speech is simple and honest, her tone is melodious. So what do you think? Who would you prefer? Hope that helps.
2007-03-13 22:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men usually get attracted because of beauty, but will only marry a person for love. If a persons former lover is now married - he may have a soft corner for her, but he will continue to love his wife.
2007-03-13 22:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by r_ranjith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 yrs is preety long time to love ur wife and forget ur old love.
further, once or ex is settled in her life, no man would like to disturb the situation.
2007-03-13 22:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kumar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes! as luv is unconditioned if i luv for a girl, wife or woman who is now mother of 2 kids.
2007-03-13 22:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by dhanu k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋