last night my bf said if we wanted to get married, his family won't ever agree, cos his family are really religious and i'm not, we're from the same background and religion it's jus me and my family are more liberal, he said he loves me but he can't go against his family. this really hurts me, he said he doesn't wanna lose me, but we both know in the future we're not going to be together. what do i do? :-(
2007-03-13 22:00:45 · 7 answers · asked by DaRkAnGeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, first ask yourself if you're willing to become more religious for the sake of your relationship. if you're not,then you better think of ending it. the sooner the better. the longer you're in it, the deeper your feeling would be and the more difficult it is to let go. coz even if both of you are committed and ready to take the risk (defy his family and just get married with you being not so religious) there will be definitely be troubles in the future. in the end he might even blame you for all of it. i've seen many marriages around me ended because of different religious principals. be strong and listen to your heart!
2007-03-13 22:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by hanashima 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely his family has said something to him to convince him that you are not right for you. Try to talk to him that you are willing to try to convince his family. If you guys are really serious in getting married talk to his parents and your parents that you are both serious about this relationship. Since you are the same religion as them, attend their religious activities to show you are willing to change . If your boyfriend says he doesn't want to try that means you have bigger problems to worry. Probably he is using his family as an excuse. If you know you won;t be together with him in the future there is no point of holding on and you have to let it go..
2007-03-14 05:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
UNFIXABLE situation. Save yourself a lifetime of trouble with a family of religious zealots and find yourself another man. People like this also seem to have a way of getting the children away from the mother in case of divorce, so don't marry and don't get pregnant. He'll NEVER stand up to his family and his church.
Be eternally thankful to him for being honest and upfront about this to you!!!
2007-03-14 05:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you then he will go against his family and marry you anyway but that will be a decision he will have to make. If not, it might be best you move on and find a man that is more devoted to your relationship.
2007-03-14 05:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ozzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. There is someone out there who will completely appreciate you.
Don't waste time with him. He won't ever go against his family. They will continue to dictate how he lives.
You don't need that.
2007-03-14 05:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Foxxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a big decision to make. If you always wanted marriage and a family, then you need to move on - he was honest with you.
2007-03-14 07:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, cut your loses.
2007-03-14 05:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by juniper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋