I suddenly recieved a phone call from a woman claiming to be my boyfriend's wife... I was so shock!!!!
She was crying and asking me to leave him alone..
I didnt know what to say.. I just said that we were only friends and promise not to disturb their family again.
I feel sooooo guilty
Is it my fault????
I never heard his side of the story, because he never contact me since...
I tried to appologize to the wife but it made her even more sad.
I'm soooo overwhelmed with guilt.
What should I doo....
2007-03-13 21:51:07 · 25 answers · asked by LovelyLace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is sooooo deja vu to what happened to me before christmas...read mine! I know exactly what youre going through. Sick men out there!!!!!
Here's what not to do run off on a drinking binge and blame yourself YOU were decieved! ...coming from whats happened after the call. If he attempts to get back with you...you will only keep this pain hidden deep inside of you, you can not be yourself again and be happy unless you cut the ties with him. Dont listen to his lies. He got you before lying to you so he may attempt to string you along further and play the game with you and her too. Move on Hon, i know its hard. But why allow the bruise to stay..let it heal and go away. He will probably go back to her anyhow for comfort reasons and separating with cost him tons of money.
There are more nice guys waiting for you. Be strong love yourself first.
2007-03-13 22:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by La-La 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. so you want someone to tell you it's not your fault. If he's married, he's not your boyfriend. if you didn't know, then yes you are not entirely at fault. Are you feeling guilty because you may have overlooked signs. He's obviously a jerk if he is indeed married. Be thankful you were warned of the situation early on. Get out now. Ofcourse your apology is not going to instantly heel her wounds. She and they are going through something. Stay away. He didn't contact you because he is embarrassed he is caught. Do nothing. Leave it alone. In the future look out for signs that someone is married..such as only gives you a cell number, can only talk or meet with you within certain hours, stories don't add up, ask about previous relationships etc.
2007-03-14 04:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by blank 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold the horses sister! Now at least hear the man out. I had something happen to me like that and I felt the same way. I was devastated and all that you are now.
Then I thought about it and I could of done like all the other women I know and just stop talking to him ect... But I gave him a chance and come to find out it was a ex-wife not a real wife. It had been over with for a year. Weve been married now 26 years. Not everything is as it seems. If it is then kick his *** to the curb. At least hear him out.
2007-03-14 05:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by lovie12346 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to be more careful about relationships you get involved in and move on. If you honestly didn't have any idea this guy was married, then you don't have anything to feel guilty or sorry about. You are a victim as well as the wife. This guy is a loser and he's the one who should be feeling guilty, but obviously he doesn't feel anything because he lied to his wife and to you. You don't need to hear his side of the story because if he's married he's a liar and a cheat and that's ALL you need to know about him.
2007-03-14 05:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go, it was the jerks fault for putting you in that position. Or maybe he hired someone to make up that story instead of dumping you. That would be a good trick and I have no clue how that pop in my head as an idea but it did so I thought I would write.
2007-03-14 05:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Ozzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your fault, He was responsible for what happened. She knows it too, that is why she was so sad and not really mad with you. You didn't know the only thing you are guilty of is for believe him (and you were clueless) The best thing you can do is to forget the guy and when a new one arrives try to know more for sure you will be more careful. Some men are such idiots.
2007-03-14 04:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Naias ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the real deal it is your fault how could you have not known he was married i don't believe you could be that stupid. You didn't say how long he had been your boyfriend or where you met but come on give me a break how could you not know there had to have been many signs red flags. You need to go back to dating 101 if you are that easly fooled.
2007-03-14 05:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. It's not your fault - you've been used by a scumbag. Put it down to experience and move on.
You're not guilty of anything and aren't you glad you found out before you got involved too deep? At least you've been saved real heartache.
2007-03-14 04:57:14 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fortget your bf like a bad dream and begin life a new. Also do not keep any contacts with him. However, make sure that he is really married or that he is playing a prank on you through his known friend / cousin / sister.
2007-03-14 05:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were dating a married man and you didn't have any idea? I tend to doubt that.
Any way it's easy. He was never your man in the first place, he's legally and morally taken by someone else.
Leave him alone and let his wife put up with his sh*t, she's the idiot that still wats to be with him.
2007-03-14 05:13:55 · answer #10 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋