Can suicide be the final way?

Question

Please say yes!
I was an straight A pre-med student in college, trying to finish a whole year early, taking 22 credit hours this semester as well as last semester. I got all A's last semester even though everyone thought i can't make it... I DID. But this semester ... everything is falling apart. My parents are divorcing, i love my little brother and it is hard for me to even think of him or picture him going through the depression that he is going through... I am failing 9 out of 22 credit hours... I cannot stop tearing about my lovely family falling apart like this after 19-20 years. I cannot ask for another chance from my professors because I don't knwo what to tell them and I don't even know if this is a good enough reason for them to understand my pain... I'm done with this life. I totally screwd up... I lost 3 really close friends in the past year, I broke two hearts, and I feel I'm done with this life

Answer 1

I have failed a licensed exam for 3 times, and 1 time off, this year is 5th time to take the exam. It is normal in life, that at some period of one's life can be extremely bad, and I have been there too. I understand how you feel, but your problems can be resolved step by step, you must bite the bullet and let time to pass.........eventually the sun will come out

Try to solve your problems seperately, don't put them altogether, if you can solve any of them, that means, things are getting better.

1. your credit - tell your professor, some people understand, and some don't. you need to give it a try. usaully, people can understand.

2. Your family problem - take it as temporary break, your parents will remain healthy or even better life after they seperate. you still have them, and they still have you, since you are such a grown up already. After a while, you will try to get them together, when both side feel better, and when you are done with school, and have the ability to do so. Try to postpone this problem.

3. Friends - say sorry to them if you feel you have done something wrong, write them an emails.

you are under tremedous pressure, but pray to God, God will help you. keep faith in god, don't let the school thing drag you down, credits can be earned in next semester, as long as you keep going.

Think of those great people in the world, who doens't have bad and extreme difficult time??? not even to mention so called great people, just people you know in general, have been through it, 90% of people at some point in life will experience extemely difficult time, you must try to across it. Things will be better, as long as you slow down the pace, and don't push so much pressure on yourself, allow yourself to fail some credits, relax, and slow down, everything will be all right.

Answer 2

Sorry friend I can't say yes. It the the depths of dispair it is often hard to see the road to take.

When things get to this point it is often very important to talk to people. Sometimes counsellers can help. They will try to help you through the tough times and look for the light that seems so hard to see at present. But remember the light is there.

Talking to people can help you understand you are not alone, sharing can help. Is there a friend you can talk to.

Should you talk to your professors? Probably yes as they may well have some way to help or to take the pressure off in terms of study. Without talking to them it means you wont give them a chance to find a solution. Is there a student counselor you can talk to. Often such counselors are a good go between with professors.

I am sorry to hear your parents are divorcing and these things can be harder for the children who remember the joys of childhood. Sadly sometimes people need to move apart. This does not mean that you will love your parents less or they will love you less but simply that the setting will be different. This may be something your parents need.

With straight As you must have many skills, it is easy to forget these things when the world seem such a dark place. List the successes you have had. Remember the good times you have had and remember these will come back.

Remind yourself that you are sailing through a storm and that in the end you will be through it and the sun will shine again.

Answer 3

Listen to me, please!!

Suicide is a form of finality, yes, but it isn't the solution. It damages and doesn't help anyone or anything.

I can only imagine the pain and agony you must feel seeing your family fall apart but they need you now more than ever! Your little brother needs your love and support and your parents, whatever their decision, need your love as well because they're seeing the very union THEY built fall apart. I don't know what caused it but I know it is not your fault or your brother's. They have to work that out.

As for your studies, it's okay if you're not doing so well considering what you're going through. It's okay if you don't score all As in college. Talk to your professors. They always give out second chances. Take a break from your studies to deal with this crisis if you need to. You can come back later once you're ready. If they don't understand, they've got a problem, not you!

Most of all, please understand. It's not really your fault everything's falling apart. Don't worry about what if I was the better daughter? What if I was a better student? Don't. It's horrible, it's painful, but you can live through this. You can, oh, you can! Message me or someone else please if you need someone to talk to. I have Skype, I have MSN. Please, please, please don't leave such a mark behind. You are worth, you can be, you can do so much more than you realize.

Answer 4

Think about your brother, and how he would feel if he didn't have you, especially at a time when he needs someone there for him.

As for failing, I'm not surprised. Alot of people go through this sort of thing when they have family problems. If you're worried and all you're thinking about is those problems, of course it's going to affect your studies. Find a teacher that you trust and go talk to them. Explain what's happening, and hope and pray that they will be understanding. If all else fails, you can always try to retake the credits later after things have settled down.

I think what you really need to do is have a talk with your school counselor. Your life isn't falling apart, even though it seems like it. You're just going through something very difficult, very difficult, and it's okay to ask for help when we're at times like this. The fact that you're writing this here shows me that you want that help. There are people there for you who will support you and help you through this. Please, visit your school counselor. Even when everything seems to be falling to pieces like this, there is always hope that things will get better. And they usually do. You can make it through this. You've made it through medical school with straight A's. You're a strong person, and you can make it through this as well.

You'll be in my prayers.

Answer 5

Your life is your own. If you want to take it away from yourself, by all means. No one can stop you. Or, at least, they shouldn't be able to. Kill yourself if you truly want to die. But, know this: Many people have suffered. We all suffer. Some have suffered more than others. In fact, I would imagine that there are individuals living today who have lost everything and kept pushing along. You only have one life, sure it can be hard, but it's the only one you got. If a family divorce, some failing grades, and some lost friends are going to make you bail on the one life you have, you really are a coward - life requires such minimum bravery, and you've shown you have none.

Answer 6

NO i am sorry but you will have to deal with your problems anyway-even if you should commit suicide. You may think you are through with life but life is not through with you. Hang in there until everything turns around. Do you want to hurt your little brother even more? Not to mention everyone else including yourself

Answer 7

Well, it really depends on whether you believe there's life after death. You could actually speak with a counsellor as most University provides this service. Try to work things out with them or with someone close; provided they're not as confused as you. Lastly, suicide is never the final way. As a matter of fact, it's never a way.

Answer 8

Suicide is never an answer...Life is like a rotating wheel...sometimes you are up...and sometimes you are down...You have to deal with problems one at a time. Out there...there are people that are in a more dire state then you are..I know how you feel...i've felt that before...

Answer 9

Time takes away the edge of grief
Only memories turn back every leaf

Answer 10

this should give you more of a reason to live. you now have a point to prove to continue getting As and living life to the full. now you just have to prove that to yourself