My husband always see the bad side of everything. There is no fun in his life. Bearing this for 5 years, now I am about to burst. I am still living with him because of our 2 year old dayghter. My childhood is a fantastic one. My parents cared me alot. When I compare the life I had before the marriage and now, I feel really sorry about me. Eventhough I am working, I can not drive. As a result me and my baby go out rarely and we are stuck up in the house. My husband gets angry often and think about cleanliness too much. Sometimes I feel he is a maniac and my child suffers alot from his rules to be clean all the time. All what he does when he is home is sleeping and watching TV. Very rerely speak with me or play with the child. Doesn't help me in house work at all. I tried to discuss this with him several times but he never changes.
What can I do? How can I make my life happier?. I don't want to divorce as my child needs a father.
2007-03-13 21:32:47 · 8 answers · asked by Ami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your child does not need a father like him and you do not need a husband like him just remember there are thousands of guys out there who cannot have children and would give the world to be with you to love you and your child the way you deserve to be loved. I would fire him!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-13 21:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by taking care of yourself. Take a deep breathe. Lots of men act this way when the responsibilities of life get to them---they are cave dwellers who hide out some place until they "figure it all out". Trouble is, we need them out here NOW. God wrote a book on marriage.....and we are commanded to respect our husbands. Its really hard to go back to the things we do naturally when we date them---admiration, acknowledgement, appreciation and attention. I read recently that the most successful marriages include a time every week when the woman just watches her man work---for about 20 mins without saying a word to him. Turns out he needs that kind of attention the way we need gentleness. Say a prayer. Ask God for help in your marriage. Join a church. Your marriage is worth it. I remember how many times I would go find my husband and just sit and watch him when we were dating, cant believe what a chore it was the first time someone suggested it. If there is no fun in his life, maybe plan some for the two of you. I know how you feel dear, my husband was in a funk for just over 4 years. I did the things I am suggesting to you here....I joined a church and got some good old fashioned praying ladies to start praying for my marriage (joined the women's ministry/teachings to learn more). In six short weeks we have had a complete turn around. There is sooo much I want to tell you. But right now, all you need to do is make a commitment to try. What have you got to lose? Ask God to show you what He wants for you and for your marriage? There are blessings beyond your wildest dreams waiting for you.
2007-03-14 08:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may need to talk to your hubby about his peculiar behaviour. Remind him that he shares the house with you and the little girl and he has to be a caring father too. As you have been married for 5 years, it is still a learning process where both of you must think of the other and try to solve problems together. You have to be patient with him to change but try to give him this chance. Ask him if he still cares about you and if the answer is yes, you are 1/2 way there. All you need to do is to help try to talk to you when he has problems and share abit with him. Tell him your thoughts too. Hope this helps.
2007-03-14 04:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the used of staying with him if your not happy anymore, he is selfish and vain. I dont know maybe he has a personality disorder. I can see him that he never enjoyed his childhood life thats why he doesnt know how to share happiness and to play with your child, He is soo cold. Start a new life.But then if you dont want to divorced him, its your choice. Still try to talk to him about this matter and save your marriage.Hope it will work. Goodluck.
2007-03-14 04:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by taurust_girl27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has some type of mental disorder, and to let your child stay in this environment is not mentally healthy at all, and to top it off its making you depressed and unhappy hate to say it but you need to leave, if you talked to him and nothing changed then its time to move on.... living like a hermit with a child is not an ideal situation....
2007-03-14 04:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people talk very less..by birht or some incidence....so try to go out for trip with ur family or one he likes. and in that company more people should be ther..they should speak more and joking........at that moment u try to support ur husband..and pareally crak jokes...try mingle..wit more people..will help him to change his mind....try to go temple with ur partner or garden...and try to make him as friend....
-hahaaaa
2007-03-14 04:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by manhihash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop that zero, get yourself a hero.
2007-03-14 04:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by ill take it straight with no ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a Virgo, right???
2007-03-14 12:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by Montana Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋