Ok 2 of my best friends in the world have feelings for me, they are very distant but we feel close as we chat everyday. They both know now they both have feelings for me. One is male and the other is femae and I'm Bi so it's ok.
I know it's up to me to decide but what things can I thnk about, questions to ask along the way. I have feelings for both really and it's like choosing over something I can do, :(
2007-03-13 20:55:56 · 19 answers · asked by FuturisticKid 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I mean choosing over something I can't* do... silly me.
PS: Serious answers please and you will get thumbs up. ;)
2007-03-13 21:05:00 · update #1
I would have both if I had a chance, but one doesn't like be sharing... Otherwise they would be like my clients. :p
I am getting to meet the female friend on 31st March.
2007-03-14 02:00:19 · update #2
Just think deeply and follow your heart. If you love him more then go out with him, if you love her more then gout out with her, but be careful. You have to make sure about your feelings so you won't regret in the end!!!
2007-03-13 21:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Neverwater 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should steer clear of both.. Just because someone has feelings for you doesn't mean you have to act, it's not fair on yourself! Besides, if you're all friends, they're probably not going to get along after you choose one over the other, and it's not like 'if one doesn't work out, there's always the other one', because many people dont' appreciate being second-string.
Maybe you should save your friendship and find someone else... If that's out of the question, I would choose the female. Purely for reasons of sexual desire. I'm not attracted to women, but I assume this is all about sex anyway, and the best orgasms come from someone who knows how do it.
**EDIT**
I'm sorry I got the idea you were female. Well just change the wording around and I have the same opinion the other way.
2007-03-14 04:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one but been there myself. in the end I decided to go on a date with one then the other. i know it sounds rough, i weighed up all the pro's and con's after the dates for each and eventually decided that I'd sooner have them both as friends and not ruin the relationship. I hope you can work it out bud.
2007-03-14 07:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cruz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you could go out with both cause you won't be cheating.
But the most important thing to think of is who do you like more.
Also who you value the friendship with cause if u get into a fight and breakup then u might lose both a friendship and relationship.
2007-03-14 04:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sunny Girl 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well who do you find yourself thinking about more??
When you close your eyes at night who pops into your mind first?
Take a few days break from seeing both of them and relax,do something fun....while you're doing that try to put them both out of your mind.
Deep inside you know the answer-you just need time & space to find it.
2007-03-14 07:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by munki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally if you are more gay than bi, which I suspect ypu are, more gay, then go with the guy, if not and are more straight, then choose the girl, however go for the girl and occasionally hook up with the guy, learn to explore, you'll be wiser for the choice, if you think it out.
2007-03-14 16:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by kanei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want an easier life, go for the girl (granted that you like both of them equally). Theres too many narrow-minded, self-proclaimed christians and other ignorant, hypocritical people out there who can not understand gay relationships. They'll just make your life more difficult.
2007-03-14 04:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by grey'sanatomy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you should go for the girl. That way you can have a family (naturally). Also because some people criticize gay people. They make fun of them, and they make there life together difficult then you wont have to deal with that. You might decide to break up with him because you cant deal with what people are saying. You know what i mean? I think that you will be more happier with the girl. And you relationship might last longer.
Hope i helped!
Good luck!
2007-03-14 04:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
It depends on which one you really get on with as friends as well as which one you you have feelings for. There really isn't any hard and fast rule with this, but go with your heart. And good luck!
2007-03-14 05:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by james c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go for who u feel most for. or jus hav them both
2007-03-14 08:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋