2007-03-13 20:40:30 · 18 answers · asked by fear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Good news! You've already taken the first step by asking for help!
First of all, don't make yourself feel like trash. This is a very hard thing to deal with for most guys. It's nothing to be embarassed about. The fact that you're struggling doesn't mean that you're not a good christian, or even a good person. We all have struggles that threaten to tear us away from God. The experience of fighting the addiction will only strengthen your relationship with Him.
Find a brother in Christ to talk to. Your youth pastor would be a good choice (if he's a guy of course), or maybe even your father. I know the thought of talking to someone face to face about it sounds extremely embarassing and unbearable, but you'd be surprised how many guys struggle with it. It's very hard to fight your natural urges, especially if you don't have anyone to help you through it. If they love you, they won't judge you, and if you ask them for help, they'll help you.
Pray. A lot. Ask God to forgive you and to give you strength to fight against it in the future. A good strategy is to find a verse in the bible that you can repeat when you feel the urge to look at porn.
Find something else to divert your mind away from it. Something simple that you can carry with you would be good. Maybe a game or a book of puzles like Sudoku or Crosswords. Even a bible can do the trick (fancy that)! Anything that you can focus on instead of the thoughts you're having. Maybe get a new hobby like models or painting. Make it something you can enjoy and something you can do anytime you need it.
Try and avoid movies, music, and tv that make you think impure thoughts. This is a tough one, but it can really help keep your mind pure. Even tougher: try not to hang out with friends that encourage such things.
Most important of all, remember that God loves you no matter what, and that He by no means wants you to fail. Maybe it's a sign that you should try and be closer with Him and grow in your walk with Him. Don't be discouraged when you fail, He's always there to help us back up, no matter how many times we fall.
Good luck and God bless. You can do it!
2007-03-15 14:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Throw it all out. Then replace the destuctive guilty habit with a more positive helpful one like giving to charity or join a church group. Realize and forgive yourself if you fall off the wagon now and then. Never give up trying to fix a habit you know is very wrong.You will get people no here telling you it's ok to have it;it's not okay if it makes you feel bad.
2007-03-13 20:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by autumn leaf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Donate your collection to a truly needy individual.
Whatever you do, don't throw it away! Garbage men are known for picking porn out of garbage cans. Then they'll share it with their buddies and maybe even tell them where they got it.
You don't want a bunch of horny garbage men claiming "dibs" and fighting over your trash every week. That would suck.
2007-03-13 20:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get laid.... Porn is porn but the real deal is a different story...
If you so ever had masturbated in the long time that you've been watching this porn by now you should have realized that you don't get as much as you should with the real deal right??
Don't get rid of your porn though... you need the education for the real deal... ^_^
2007-03-13 20:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jean Paul 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you can talk to people who know what to do.
You could come up with something else to do everytime you get a erge to look at porn.
Or you could go away somewhere where there is no computer or magazines, videos etc.
Btw u can talk to me about anything.
2007-03-13 20:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Look there is nothing wrong for liking porn, It's perfectly natural. mabye trying having more frequent sex your self and that might help ease your addiction.. I must say porn is good for the sex life every now and then so enjoy what nature gave you.
2007-03-13 20:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
spend most of your time with people who are respected by you, if you can.be busy with some sport's activity, get involved in some brain activity.be more religious, do meditation .buy some books on self improvement .i think enough has been said ,now its your turn to act upon them .good luck !
2007-03-13 20:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by sudha p 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask some one how you can dealt the porn sites.from the computer,and don,t buy pore video.s or magazines, expresslywwe divas.
2007-03-13 20:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and why is this wrong to be addicted to porn? your gf just told u that that's why? tell her to perform better , that will cure your addiction to pictures and starts addiction for real things
2007-03-13 20:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pray........God is real he wil help you. He helped me get rid of some of my own addictions. Try it cant hurt.
2007-03-13 20:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋