Is every answer to every question Argumentative in this country.?

Question

Peole think there smart when they give you a different perspective to your question. But is everyone like me and tired of people avoiding the subject and forceing the different approch. I think its annoying and short minded. YThis question is in responce to some of the answers i got to my other open question " how much do you love your kids? " i ask them what they tell them to make them feel really loved. They give me answer like its not what you tell them its how you treat them. I know this stuff. but thats not what i wanted to know. i want you to tell me what you tell them. see my point?

Answer 1

Well Joe
First off-- the questions you post here are not just FOR "this country"-- where ever THAT is (?)--- there are people in this place from everywhere !!
I could answer the original question "is every answer to every question argumentative (?) " by saying NO--- but THAT would be argumentative !!!
Point here, Joseph,is--- you--- nor I--- set the rules of engagement in this place---- period---- you throw the dog into the fray and then you sit back and see what he flushes out of the brush !!! And, you can't go "bitchtallking" about whether he comes up with a wild boar or a covey of quail !! You know as well as anyone that not everyone in the freaking world is on the same wavelength as you---so why all the fuss about getting the spectrum that you Know is out here ???

The general idea is---you're free to ask what you want and how you want (within the guidelines) and we are free to answer how we want (within the guidelines) and That is That
Now, if that doesn't cut it for YOU--- you don't Have to participate---and, hell, you Could Go off somewhere and start your OWN answers site and set Any Rules at all that You Wanted to--- how cool would that be ?? And, how many people would want to be on "Joseph's QnA" anyway ??
You might be Lucky to get any answers at all !!!!!
See MY point ??

Answer 2

One of the problems I find is that a lot of people confuse their habits and beliefs with their identity. So if you ask a question of somone regarding something they do or believe, they think that you're actually questioning their identity and then become defensive.

OK - there's a fine line between beliefs and identity, but habits and identity are quite different.

One answer is to teach people the difference between habits, beliefs and identity, which we don't currently do successfully - because if we did, there wouldn't be so many arguments!

Another possibility is to phrase questions in a different way. If you ask 'Why did you paint your house blue?' chances are you'll get a lot of information you didn't ask for, possibly some defensive ducking and diving but no clear answer. If you ask 'what is it about the colour blue you like?' then you'll get a much more informative answer. Try this for a day - when you're about to ask a 'why?' question, stop, rephrase it into one or more 'what?' questions and study the difference in results. You'll be delighted with the outcome.

Answer 3

Your question and paragraph are different (I'm argumentative v. agreeable...more so than most people in this country).

As far as what you are saying in your paragraph,
I think people are just trying to talk over you (say what they want to say, rather than answer the question you asked) and get their 2 pts., rather than actually reading the questions.

I'd rather believe the above than that people are just too illiterate to get through a paragraph with enough comprehension to actually answer the question asked.

Answer 4

well ,of coruse! There are many ways to look at ,..
a mere suggestion.
If this bothers you, ...I believe that there are people that argue (as in just taking up a position)...also there are people who argue just for the sake of not wanting to be wrong. You've got to really look at person, Maybe it's the best that they can do..! at any rate,..
You could look at it as a learning experience.
Ms.Kate

Answer 5

it's fun that way