okay i have this problem?

Question

keep it short been with my b/f 5 years & have a baby he has his own caught him in les through out relationship with his ex found out 6 mos ago he had x-rated pictures of her & that they were going to hook up but we had broke up for a week or so becasuei felt something was wrong. and he told me everything and when we broke up 5 years ago when i was pregneat and that he slept with his ex and 4 days i got back with him & found out i got the std from this dirty whore anyways my guyfriend who he hates is reaching me we went out a couple times but were never a couple i am dreaming of him but i think it becuz of the attention i dont get from my b/f like i want to be kissed &hold/cuddl but i have to work for it i feel taken for granted but i just want to talk to my friend i have none, but i'm afraid if i tell him i would be kicked out. should i tell him

i luv my b/f and i dont want any one else but i have this feeling for my guy friend and i am afraid he will do this again with his babys mom since she is going to be around for the rest of my life, and i cant get over the fact he did this to me i hang it over his head i know i cant do that but i have questions and i am very angry help me plese give me thoughts and advice please thank you

this friend of mine has came before but i ignore him becasue i didnt want any drama and this was like 2 years before i found any of this crap that has been going on

my guy friend does not know anything about my relastionship problems or anything like that he just found out that i had a kid and was with this guy for so long . i had called him but i get scared and say wrong number...

Answer 1

Yes you have a big problem, and it isn't just them. Sorry but your not exactly one to talk to the people in your life. I mean you lay out a small bit of history about these very important men in your life and the relationships are full of disceet and classic communication problems. Seems your not use to having an emotional relationship but you sure what/need one. I would start with that friend of yours but unfornatly you've kept him so out in the dark about your relationship (which is a big part of anyones life) that chances are you might loss him. If you don't thats one hell of a guy there. The b/f is just a creep, plain and simple. There sure isn't no saving that guy espacilly when you've let him run the relationship for so long, he'll never give that up. Besides sounds like he's got a lady on the side which makes it darn easy for him to wait you out tell you get lonely again. It takes more then a baby and a few good words to make a relationship work. You know this, thats why you want'd kisses&hold/cuddl becuase thats really some of the basic building blocks of a good relationship. If you got to work that hard for it and you feel that, thats fair, you got a problem with excepting what you worth. Work on that, and that friend of yours seems like a good start.