Would You Cheat On Your Fiancee/Spouse If Given the Opportunity?

Question

My fiancee works in the army and he is being stationed in Korea. I've had insecurities because he's cheated on me before but for the most part, I try to get away from that cause he did ask me to marry him for a reason. I've asked many of their opinions about this question but I seem to be getting the wrong answer. I would just like to hear from others what their opinion is.

I mean it seriously, given the chance they would never/or hardly had the chance to find out, would you or would you not?

Answer 1

No, I personally would not cheat. I've learned through great pain and personal experience that cheating is always hurtful to a relationship even if only one person know about it.

HOWEVER, I am going to tell you some painful truth I know about military men stationed away from their wives. I bet you can guess.....

I was in the Navy, stationed in Japan. While on Japan I had many BFs. None of them were single men. All were married. Yes, it was wrong. I knew it then, but I didn't care. I was lonely... they were lonely...we weren't lonely together. Before anything sexual took place I reminded them that they were married, I suppose to clear my mind....I'm not sure really. Only one man ever backed down! The rest said, "That's my problem, not yours." These men were not looking for someone to replace their wives. The had already found Mrs. Right, but while they are away, they were looking for Miss Right Now.

If I could change some of my past, I would! but I can't. The best I can do is learn from my mistakes and not repeat them. So, when you ask if I would cheat on my spouse....No, I couldn't do to him what I did to so many other families. It took me long enough to pull myself out of the gutter, I have NO desire to go back down there.

Answer 2

NO--only a low life, insecure, disrespectful, uncaring, limp d--k would stoop so low as to cheat on a wife or girlfriend--no excuses accepted and staying with a cheater is a sign of weakness, insecurity and low self esteem--like can't do any better or why try? Do you think he is going to do a Korean Chick?? He already did a cheating episode and you stayed with him--and fell for the sob story--he will do it again because he knows you are weak and won't do anything about it--he is laughing at you---that's a fact---but he won't admit it.He married you because you are one of those types of girls who is just so desperate for a man that he can do anything and get away with it...you must love playing mommy or sob sister---you should have left the second you found out, there are millions of men who don't cheat and honor the partner they are with. My guess is he will do the Bill Clinton thing--it wasn't sex---I was just nervous and got a BJ to settle down---how nice !!!

Answer 3

No, I wouldn't do it again. Yes I did it before, and I will always regret it. My husband and I have been together since 1991, and for years I didn't realize how much he loved me. He isn't very good at expressing himself. I fell in lust with someone else, had an affair, and was sure I couldn't get caught. My friend told my husband, and he was crushed! I will never get over the hurt in his eyes. I almost lost the most important thing in my life. He forgave me, at least as much as he could, but it still comes up sometimes. I really regret it. If I had known then how special our relationship was, I would never have done it. He is the most wonderful husband I could ever have.
You said "yes" for a reason, too. You just need to remember what it was, and then make your decision. My experience may not be the same as yours.

Answer 4

my advice is make a choice rather you are going to trust him or not and stick to it and dont change your mind unless u see evidence to contradict what he is tellin you. Dont waste your time being insecure and worrying and wasting good days that u 2 can be having. Most importantly if you dont trust him dont marry him you will be bringing unncessary problems into the marriage for him and you. No man wants to be constantly accused or u being suspicious and no woman wants to worry all the time. If u have forgiven him, then forgive him. If you havent and this is still in ur heart then you need to talk to him about and get some closure and decide if he is worth the risk. Marriage is noting without trust the dumbest thing you can do is marry someone you dont trust. It defeats the purpose of getting married.

Answer 5

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! My husband and I love each other very much and would
not even think of doing that. Anyone who starts fooling around when they are
married, needs a swift kick. Marriage is becoming a lost thing. People today are too quick to throw the marriage out by being stupid--cheating. I wouldn't hurt my husband for the world. We have gone through so many things together. We lost our son and our daughter, and 3 grandkids. We have a lot of history together. I wouldn't trade my husband for anybody else. God gave me a treasure when he gave me my husband. 5 children ages 41-49, 8 grandkids ages 14-25. People today seem to think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. It's not.

Answer 6

No i'd never cheat! I'm an engaged woman and why would anyone cheat if they are going to make a commitment to only be with one person? Why not just be single and then you wont have any ties to any man/woman. I personally have been hurt from being cheated on numerous times mainly for wanting to continue to be a virgin. I'd never cause or wish the pain i felt on anyone ever!

Answer 7

I think you have a right to worry but remember that youre not obligated to stay if he cheats again. I wouldnt cheat on my husband because when you really love someone nothing can come between you. You must just ask yourself what your limitations are, theres a difference between being understanding and being a doormat, fine the line and stay behind it.

Answer 8

Potter from mash his wife didn,t, but the guys at the war did,besides it depends of how long he is going to be at Korea, a women dose have needs.but again if he,s only going to be there 6 months it not worth the risk, how are you going to tell your husband,?when he comes back but if you don,t know when he will come back then it maybe something you need to do.experts say it,s better to divorce some one instead of cheating on them. but if 6 months it too much and and you only see him 2times a year i still say it,s time to divorce him it means he marred the army not you. but if you know he,s only going to serve 6 month and that,s it then you are better at waiting the6 month i personally would divorce then to cheat.if i feel in my heart i can,t help in stopping my self ,from being unfaithful. i would wait if they gave me a die line like no more then 1 year.tell him that being with out him is driving you crazy.after all they did say for better or for worse. this war is the worse part. lesson to your heart,

Answer 9

If I was in that situation, I would've left him as soon as I found out he cheated on me, & I wouldn't have taken on his offer to marry. I personally am not a cheater. I wouldn't trade my boyfriend for anything in the world. If I found out he was cheating, I wouldn't cheat back. I'd leave him & find me another man. That's just me. My friend on the other hand would cheat.

Answer 10

No, I wouldn't cheat and wouldn't stay with someone who did. You aren't married yet, and maybe you shouldn't be. Just because he asked you to marry him doesn't mean that you are obligated to say yes. And if his reasons don't include a lifelong commitment to you alone, then I would tell him no and find someone who wanted an actual relationship.