We knew each other when we were younger-had the same circle of friends, moved on -each got married and had our seperate families. Did not see each other in over 25 years. We became re-united 3 years ago, became very close friends. We saw each other everyday while he was at work then he started coming to my house in the mornings for coffee, sometimes in the evening on his way home from work, we spent one evening together, I never felt so complete with anyone and I'm 47 years old! He has been married for 30 years, we crossed the line of friendship, his wife discovered that we were talking on the phone every day at least once and sometimes up to 5 or 6 times a day. She was and still very angry that we became so close, and she felt very threatened by me so she demanded that he stop talking to me, that was a year ago, we still talk every couple of days and we have met occasionally, not sexually. She never lets him forget about me, she brings my name up often-thows it in his face...
2007-03-13 19:32:12 · 9 answers · asked by alone2befree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is HER husband. I'm sorry you are so sad but you need to leave him alone and let them repair their marriage.
2007-03-13 19:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You be a classy woman and let him go he belongs to her, how would you like it if you were in her shoes? I am not sure if you are married now or divorced it sounds like you are not married because I don't think your hubby would tolerate Mr. morning coffee. You are playing with a 30 year marriage and two different families.
Have some decorum, get over it and move on to find a man of your own, and if there is a husband in your life concentrate all this devotion and emotion on him and fixing your own marriage.
2007-03-13 20:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by M B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should put him out. He's still calling you? Why are you so messed up in the head that you want to wreck this man's marriage of 30 years? Quit being a parasite and start finding your own men.
This is not love, this is lust. It's wrong and it's destroying his life.
2007-03-13 19:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by penhead72 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel so sympathetic with your story, except yours is really bad.. i mean i am haveing this same issue sorta except i am the married one and my ex and i have been talking, but my hubby doesn't know.. and the ex is single and would like to be with me and take in my 3 kids too, i don't believe its lust i believe its love and its soo stressful and so confusing, u two need to decide if he is gonna leave his wife or if u two are just gonna be friends, and if you r just gonna be friends then maybe u both need to sit down with his wife and reassure her nothing is gonna happen, and maybe have them both over for dinner or something.. man if u wanna chat more that would be cool.. msg me on yahoo messenger (mispookie) good luck my dear.. i wish i could figure out my deal too,..lol
2007-03-17 17:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by pookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is move on and just treasure the memories oherwise eventualy you will regret all the longing,the lonely times and the hurt you caused others
2007-03-13 20:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by cheri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as Im concerned, if he feels the same way about you. I would be asking myself, what is he still doing with his wife of 30 years? Im currently going through a divorce of only 5 years and I can tell you. When you fall out of love with your spouse, you very, very rarely fall back in. He's wasting precious moments he needs to dump her and get on with you and his life.
2007-03-13 19:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by tom c 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
better stop it immediately or suffer dire consequences..
dont go destroying a household through impulse decisions..
think about it..
you may just be pleased by a new guy's treatment or how he listens to you and stuff because youve been married to your husband for a long time, but that doesnt mean you dont love your husband anymore ..
2007-03-13 19:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by ria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one of those people who wreck the lives of families.. You ought to be ashamed of yourself! What's next, you want to be in bed with him!?! Get a life!
2007-03-13 19:39:39 · answer #8 · answered by I_fell_in_love_with_a_Pussycat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You regret....it's tough, but we all go through it.
2007-03-13 19:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by evilim 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋