hear women say it is not how the man looks that is important, it is how he is inside. Then why do I see the pretty girls out with handsome guys. I am an obese disabled man who is kind and loving. Women have said I am the best friend kind, but not the dateable kind. So whats up with that?
2007-03-13 19:13:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think you may find someone yet. It is possible when you least expect it someone unbelievably right will come along.
I tell you the truth, don't give up hope.
2007-03-13 19:16:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you may project a lack of confidence. I don't think that most women (mature, anyway) solely date guys on the basis of looks. In turn, I've been out with all sorts of women--obese, some that look as if they could eat corn on the cob through a picket fence, & even some that aren't quite classified as being sane or even mildly intelligent. You mentioned that you were an "obese disabled man" who is "kind and loving". Don't concentrate so much on the initial part and project more of the latter about yourself. Women basically just want to have fun, be amused, & are looking for guys who can just be someone who is basically happy, self-assured, and confident.
2007-03-14 02:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's up wit dat is... if you are obese, you probably have no self esteem. And women are very good at 'mothering', so it seems like they are your friends! They feel sorry for you because you are sweet and loveable, but you are not fit to be a woman's better half. You are going so far in the opposite direction. We don't really mean that is makes no difference what you look like. We actually mean, if you SUIT us we will be your 'woman', no matter what. Guys just don't get it. By the way, if you are obese, I wonder if you are pushing this thing about our 'nice guy wins' too far. Obesity is not only ugly, it's dangerous. What woman in her right (or left for that matter) mind would want a relationship where the guy is gonna keel over from a heart attack on their first date? I don't mean to be rude, but you put it right out there, and I just wanted to try to explain what we cannot explain ourselves!
On our defense - we just say whatever works for the moment, and you have to just deal with it. HEY..it works for us, okay?
RICH A - you nailed it! Self confidence is everything! For both sexes. For people who may not have the looks, they can have the self confidence.. and if they have that, then they have a great personality, which 'changes' the way they look.
2007-03-14 02:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who said you are not dateable?..... those are your words, i happen to believe there is someone for everyone, some of us find our mate more quicker than others but love sees beyond a disability, that is real and true love sometimes to fall in love with someones spirit, their soul shines a whole lot more than the physical appearence, to some body out there you can be loved, don't put yourself down, just learn to love yourself first..... i believe everyone has a right to being loved, and at the right time you will be loved.
2007-03-14 02:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best relationships start by being best friends first. Not everyone out there is shallow, some people really do look at the personality of the person.
2007-03-14 02:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Speedy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you least expect it she'll fall right in your lap. Or maybe it not your looks, maybe it would be hard for them to be with someone that has an disability. They wouldn't know how to adjust and handle being with someone that is disabled.
2007-03-14 02:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question "What kind of man are you looking for?"
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking, "Do you really want to know?"
Reluctantly, he said, "Yes." She began to expound... "As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated, "I am not referring to money. "I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life. "
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.
God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself. When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You are asking a lot. She replied, "I'm worth a lot."
here is a prose that i got off the internet and has been around for ages.. it might help you for its true! looks are definitely not a part of the long list of what women want! when other women tell you that you are not the dateable kind, don't believe them. maybe they're the ones who are not for if they are the ones who look only on the outside, they are missing a lot more than what they are getting.
good luck!
2007-03-14 02:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by machi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ARE you going to listen to that hog wash? WEIGHT is not what makes a person.NEXT Time any one talks like that excuse your self from them. THEY do not deserve you. KEEP being nice+ kind+ good. YOU just havent found the right girl yet.
2007-03-14 02:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am sorry to say that women say one thing and mean another ... the fact that someone is overweight is something that most women will not date ,, and i dont think the fact that you are disabled makes that much of a difference ,, but i believe that there is someone is out ther for everyone so do not give up.
2007-03-14 02:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by tattooed_one56 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You’ll find the right one for you, just wait. Women have different kind of types and likes.
Good luck...
2007-03-14 02:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by RJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then u juz gotta wait 4 da right gal 2 come and juz whisk u off ya feet...it will happen..juz keep positive
2007-03-14 02:23:27 · answer #11 · answered by sweet babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋