how do you feel about losing your trust in your classamates?

Question

How do you deal with people you trust and later they trick you, they gossip about you behind your back?

Answer 1

I feel your pain, really. I've been trying to deal by just ignoring a classmate I used to be friends with who has turned on me and getting involved in conversations with other classmates. Are you in high school or college? If you're in college, try sitting near someone you don't know too well next class. You could just smile if you're shy or ask something about the class. If it's high school, it's harder if you have assigned seats. I recommend not gossiping behind these people's backs. Just try your best to focus on your work and be near other people. Sometimes I am too shy to strike up a conversation with others in class but I find that if I sit near them and listen to what they are saying (looking at and smiling them), they often welcome my company just because I'm nearby. I think that would work for you because people like to be listened to. You could always add a comment or two to the conversation and see what happens. Good luck!

Answer 2

That just happened to me. I thought i had two best friends, but they turned on me. Now that COMPLETELY ignore me. They talk about me behind my back and they turned the whole class against me. I totally trusted them.

This made me feel so horrible. I cried alot. I missed some school. Than i realized hello, this is life. You know? I am strong, i can deal with this. I sometimes feel like i really want to transfer schools. But then i thought this is only making me stronger. You know, things might resolve themselves. You know?!?!? There will be bumps in the road, but then the path will be really smooth. You can deal with it. Your classmates aren't worth your tears.

Try making new friends. Not everyone will turn on you. I have made some very nice friends by getting away from my back stabbing friends. Meeting new people will really help. Sit next to someone new, or talk to someone you want to get to know. A laugh with someone can start a friendship. Try partnering up with someone you want to get to know. If you notice someone is lonely, ask them to sit next to you or talk to them. They will be really thankful you did this. Don't put all your trust in people before you know them really well. This can lead to problems! I feel ya! GOOD LUCK! :)

Answer 3

definitely you'ld be hurt. just don't be friends with him/her anymore--only superficial hi/bye friends or not at all.

learn from your mistake of trusting people either too readily or too much... when you make friends don't tell them every detail of your life. wait until you've known them awhile, observe the way they react to friends/you/strangers and slowly open up when your gut feeling feels that this may be a good friend.

yes, main part is, we learn from our mistakes. don't take it too hard. you'll be sad and disappointed, but do something to reverse this feeling. make new friends or talk to another trusted friend :) gd luck.

Answer 4

Welcome to the real world. Get used to it, it's normal.