Ok girls, here is the story:
We are a young married couple, we are both 21 and have a precious child. We were both virgins when we got married (yes, you read right) and now things are difficult for me since I want to try new things. Im not asking for threesomes, just oral and a few different positions. I just feel Im losing my pasion (NOT my love). We have talked about this and she tells me she feels uncomfortable doing oral and other things... but come on, we have 4 years of marriage and only tried 3 different positions... now sex is boring to me, I know exactly what will happen and I cant change it ´cause she feels uncomfortable with it. Any advice how to spice things up?? Should I just embrace my destiny of boring sex ´till I die?
2007-03-13 19:01:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, she pretty much hates porn, so thats a BIG no for now. I also tried to change my mindset, but as I said, EVERYTHING is the same. Giving her 6 months would be piece of cake since I´ve been 4 years like this. And no, I dont push her into anything since I know that would make things worse for both of us.
2007-03-14 06:40:43 · update #1
try watching porn together. buy a sex guide that both of you can read... have you asked her why she feels uncomfortable doing other positions? don't rush her into oral sex, some of us are still not comfortable with it!
2007-03-13 21:11:31 · answer #1 · answered by unhappily married 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should NOT pester/bug her about wanting different positions... embrace "boring" sex for awhile and broach the subject again like say 6 months later? btw, if you think it's "boring" it will be "boring." other method would be to change your mindset, that what is "boring" can actually be "fun." it's your perception of things and how you react to it...
remember that it doesn't always have to be her doing the changing, and that sometimes you compromise by changing yourself and the way you think about things... truthfully the best way to affect others is to change your bad habits and improve your weaknesses while focusing on your strengths only. tough work, but the results will be impressive, because you focus on your wife's strengths too. main thing is total acceptance. and there's always room for you to improvement. don't think of how others should improve before you improve--that's selfish... i'm also learning, we all are always learning, though... just gotta accept it :D
2007-03-13 21:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(BOY)LEAVE HIM
2007-03-13 22:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by gaurav s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋