My next door neighbor is divorced and shares the custody of her daughter. It seems that we both have a lot of free time at our homes at the same times and over the months have gotten to know each other better. Today I was over in her yard and had some serious eye contact with her. I know what was in her mind and I know that both of our juices were running. As I left she ran her hand along my arm; it felt like a bolting rod. Now, I can’t sleep. I know I’m doomed since I can’t get her out of mind. I am married and even though our sex life hasn’t been good lately, I want to remain faithful. I feel very weak right now. How can I stay out of trouble?
2007-03-13 18:58:14 · 22 answers · asked by mklwis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like a bad episode of Dynasty.
2007-03-13 19:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Hi 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Move out of state. Men absolutley cannot control themselves in situations like that. At least I know I couldn't. You obviously cannot just shut your neighbor off. You are doomed partner. You are going to cave. All it will take is one good fight with your wife in addition to the lacking sex life...And if you decide to go through with it all the sudden your divorced neighbor will become best buddies with your wife then you will really be screwed. Concentrate on what is making your marriage less interesting and find ways to imporve it. Marriage counseling isn't all that bad. That is the only thing I can tell you. Good Luck!
2007-03-14 02:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by MiKe 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, stay indoors if you can. Try not to look out and stay out of the way for the moment. Do something in the house with the family. Play board games, go shopping with the wife, go out to the movies with the kids, take your family along where ever you go, so as to remind you that you have a family and that is all you care. Good luck.
2007-03-14 02:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what will happen.
You will end up having sex with this woman only to find out it wasn't as great as you thought, or it was even better than you thought, you either stop seeing this woman and she becomes a Stalker, or you keep having a relationship with this woman until your wife catches you.
Would it be worth it.
Why not donate your time to your wife?
You said your sex life with your wife hasn't been good lately.
Work on your relationship. Take your wife out of town or a simple date. Buy your wife flowers or jewelry. Let your wife know you love her.
You didn't mention if you have children or not?
Anyway stay far, far, away from your neighbor and if she approaches you, tell her you love your wife.
2007-03-14 02:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the neighbor! She knows you are married because she lives next to you so there is just no excuse and you know you are married well because you are with your wife. Just imagine how much it would hurt your wife if you messed around with your neighbor. If your sex life isn't good,sit and talk to your wife about it. Buy some pornos, read each other sexy stories, role play WHATEVER it takes to spice it up between you two. Just don't cheat on your wife. And ooh I wonder if she is the snaky type like the kind that will talk and smile in your wife's face and then be trying to sleep with you behind her back...don't get me started lol
2007-03-14 02:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by !!! 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she is trying to get something going with you and she has been planning and plotting to get you. you should try thinking about your wife like you used to. If your sex life isn't good make a better effort with your wife. take her to a motel on a mini vacation. my hubby and i have always gone on a date once a week even if it's for a drive or dinner it is time alone to connect without the kids. when you marry there are good times and there are bad times but cheating will only make for the worst you ever imagine. you hurt your wife, your kids, your extended family because you know they will find out what you did and have little or no respect for you. It a little sex worth it? If she comes out while you are outside go back inside. try to ignore her as much as possible. If you have kids think about how they are gonna look at you after they find out you cheated.
2007-03-14 02:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by bubbles 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a word called No. Stay in your back yard. and zip your pants, Thats how. All this things are just not right. Be honest with your partner. Your neighbor can find someone else. Plenty fish in the pond. Have you had this. Dont make her trouble yours.
2007-03-14 02:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you are married why get into a problem which you will be guilty of . It is better to leave her alone .Remember , to be faithful you need a lot of guts in the modern world.It is veryeasy to fall into a trap but very difficult to get out of it.
2007-03-14 02:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember the good times you've had with your wife. Things can get hard and sometimes you can both feel neglected. The best thing you can do is talk to her! She needs to know. If you feel weak...maybe there's a reason...and maybe you should both talk about it. What if she feels the same way?
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Think of how you would feel if you're wife was in your place. Would you want her to cheat?
2007-03-14 02:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The temptation is very close and real, u must avoid or u will be damned. The forbidden fruit looks sweeter, but it could open up unlimited troubles for u.
2007-03-14 02:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from her, she has nothing to lose, you have EVERYTHING to lose. You and your wife are going through a rough patch but you can fix it. Concentrate on your marriage and what you can do to make it better. Keep yourself so busy with that and you won't have time for "Little Miss Home Wrecker".
2007-03-14 02:11:11 · answer #11 · answered by kitkat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋