he is 26 yrs of age and the problem is he is in love but his mom denied the relationship. Now he is not going to his office nor he is interesxted in any other activities. Infact he can n't get married because he has a lot of responsibilities.. his mom.. nephews..nices ..sisters needs to be looked after. now he is floating between two boats and does not have any option to choose..please suggest..
2007-03-13 18:53:11 · 12 answers · asked by Joshia S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What is he doing supporting his mother, niece and sisters? That's his Mom's job. If she can't do it, then she should be getting disability.
Sounds like a posessive Mom. He needs to break away from that or he'll never have a relationship. He could get custody of his sisters and niece if his Mom can't provide. His Mom is the problem.
http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/595/
Here's an episode Dr. Phil did on it.
2007-03-13 19:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by Sly Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on him man how he will take his responsibilities as .
But one thing i would like to say that girlfriends can be many but mother is a unique person beyond any compare.
You are only 26 and are working, at least you have a job in hand. being a boy ask your friend that don't be in hurry you are young enough and can get married after 3 to 4 years, there is no problem, don't run away from your responsibilities.
Remember my words She ( mom) has gone through agony and pain she went through all the years . it was you, only for you. Now she needs you.
2007-03-13 19:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person has his or her own responsibilities. Taking care of parents is definitly his responsibility but can't understand nephews and nice, they are their parents resp. and not his. Secondly if his brother and sister are young then he can take care of them only till then when they stand on their own feet. If they are grown enough to earn then why he is bothering to take their resp., they can do it by themselves.
Secondly every mother who has a son have a mentality that if her son gets married then they will not take care of them. Here ur friend will have to make them realize that even after marry the girl whom he loves, he will take care of his parents.
First let he know what are his responsibilities, whether he can tackle it smoothly and if yes, then let his realize his mother that he can handle all his resp. Now he is just 26, he can wait for 2 more years for getting married and by the time he can finish off some of his resp like getting his sis married etc.
all the best.
2007-03-13 19:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Psychology 101 says any question that begins with "one of friend" is most likely that it is you who is going through the problem. Well since you are brave enough to ask this question, you are brave enough to do what is right for you. You can marry the girl of your choice and still help the extended family to your ability. They are adults and they will need to chip in and take responsibility for their own life. You can help as much as you can and should. Do not forget to live your life and pal it is short so make the decision quickly and do not give into the emotional blackmail that you are now going through.
2007-03-13 20:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He have 2 choices. Either he can ignore his mom and carry on with his luv affair or he forget his love. Which ever he chooses, life has to continue. He can't stop living and since many people depend on him he have no other choice. Maybe u as a fren can play a part in helping him. Do you approve of him and the girl? If u think the girl is rite for him and that his mom is wrong in stopping the relationship, try talking to his mom on his behalf. Tell her how miserable her son is by her decision and that she shud atleast give her son a chance to prove that his choice is rite. If u r not so keen with the idea of talking to his mom, then ask your fren to grow up. It's his life. If he really loves this girl then he shud prove his mom wrong by goin to work and continue with his daily life and also continue with his luv. Slowly ask him to convince his mom bout his girl and keep on trying. Somehow the mom have to give in if he persist with the issue. If he really feels that the girl is the rite one for him, then don't stop just cos mummy doesn't approve. Mom's not the one who's marrying the girl but him. Tell him to start acting his age and stop being a cry baby, cos sulking won't work in his case.
2007-03-13 20:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Akki's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok well his mom most likey just doesnt want to loose him, she likes having him around to take care of the family. if hes in love then hes in love and his mother cant change that, and he shouldnt let her make that much of an impact in his life, he needs to go back to the office and do the things he used to do, taking care of all of those people 24/7 shouldnt be his responsibility, hes 26 and needs to be working on getting his life together and maybe settling down with this girl he loves. he needs to talk to his mom. he cant be her baby and babysitter forever
2007-03-13 19:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a person we all have our own responsibility but never think that you are responsible for all. Try and see who all can share the responsibilities. And for marriage I think you should go by your choice not others. You are going to spend your life your partner and you would need someone who would understand you.
2007-03-13 21:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by Robinson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is 26 he has all the liberty to fall in love.but at this age he cannot sit like this need to work.in life there r so many ups and downs,tell him to talk to his mom.he can look after his sister but why a long Q.LET HIM THINK ABOUT IT HE WILL GET AN ANSWER.LET HIM BE CONFIDANT .
2007-03-13 19:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by revathy l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this normally happens especially he is the earning member of the family. we cant have smiling faces around us always! he should go ahead and marry the girl. what i feel is they will accept their marriage. if he faces problems he can move out any time. so what happened to the other guys(if ladies are not working) in the family? brother(s)/ brother in laws?
2007-03-15 19:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anmol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its his life...and he is legally an adult. he has the right to choose what he wants or whom he wants in his life. his mother should know that, just because he is in love and with someone, that doesnt mean he will become distant. he should go for it...how can he be expected to help everyone and be the best he can be if hes not happy?!?
2007-03-13 19:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋