This is really hard!! Iknow this is the best thing for my family! i think it is resentment!! I am getting a divorce he is moving out at the end of the week. I am 7 months pregnant and have a 11 month old here at home that I am compeltly responsible for! He came home tonight and got ready like he is going out to a club or bar. his friend picked him up! This really bothered me!! Iam not sure if it because I have feelings still or the fact that men have it so easy. I am getting heart burn and am having backaches and am exhausted from watching our baby all day. And here he is with no worries going out! I am so upset right now. How can I not feel this way? I know what he is doing is making it that much easier to leave the hate keeps building up! Is there any decent men out there? How can I feel better about this?
2007-03-13 18:53:05 · 7 answers · asked by pittbull mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel for you, why do they do what they do men that is. You can blame the father and their father before them.Men have been getting away with treating us women like crap for so long. Of course not all men are jerks just the majority and sorry to say you have one of the jerks.I can't say if you are doing the right thing by separating only you no for sure.We do act like their mothers after we are with them for a while and that pushes them away we can't help it,its the mothering in us.
2007-03-13 20:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Please Believe in yourself. Know that you can make it. If you put all of your efforts into loving your self and your baby and baby to be you will feel great. Hate can become a disaster to your mind and body so try not to do that. Try to get a few family members to help a couple times a week with the little on so you can get some rest. Focus on the positive for ex: you are healthy,you have a healthy child ,good pregnancy,you have food,shelter clothes on your back.He is not there to torment you. Be grateful for that. It Last but not least try not to think about men good or bad. God will handle that for you in time.
2007-03-14 02:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by lipsonbrad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get dressed up and when he comes home tomorrow walk out the door the minute he walks in. Tell him the instructions on how to care for the toddler are on the table and that you are going out with friends. Even if you just go to a girlfriends and sit and talk, do it. He has a duty to his child too and you shouldn't be so stressed at a time like this( pregnant).
2007-03-14 02:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you slice it it will not be easy. There are no quick solutions.
Do not be concerned with what he is doing, just take care of yourself and your child.
My advice to you is to get involved with a Bible believing church...meet the women there. You obviously need to have some good support, so go get it...it is available. Do not be shy about introducing yourself around in church.
Remember that you have the power to chose how you react to all this. Pray Pray Pray There is power in prayer. The answer does not lie in a man, it is in Jesus Christ because HE loves you and will make a way for you to get through this if you ask Him for help.
Go up, not down. I have just said a prayer for you.
2007-03-14 02:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by lafrava 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is , But I would say take" time off" before and after the baby is born and then at least 6 to 12 month until your body has a real time to heal.
Your going to be tired allot and that not going to help with decisions that have to be made with kids.
2007-03-14 02:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you are seperated why is he still living there? Being seperated means just that...living seperately or as the law says "seperately and apart". Tell him to get out YOU get to remain in the home because YOU have the children to care for. He seems to have friends so let him go stay with his friends. Right now he is playing you and you are letting him, and it will continue like this until YOU step up and change it.
2007-03-14 02:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going through those hormones.It will be ok.Dont worrie.Once you have your child it will soon be over.You should redecorate your house once you have your baby.Stay busy and Remember that God is always by your side.Yes there are Decent men out there.barely but ther is.I got one.You will be fine,and God will bless you .Be ready to start a new life.You will be Ok.For now just love your kids & yourself.
2007-03-14 02:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋