2007-03-13 18:48:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What a double standard...and you're saying you still do everything you did for her before you wed?
In all honesty, yes you were tricked into marriage...she's a woman! Depending on what type of things you're talking about, and how long you've been together, it's hard to tell though based on what you wrote. And if they're good things then ask her to revert to what she used to do, nothing wrong with that.
2007-03-13 18:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Gorgeous George 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. take things for granted and you will not receive. We get irritated because, the thank you and I appreciate you are no longer an issue. It peeves our hide. She doesn't stop just because you got married. She is the same person, but now you expect what you have already received.
Just let me tell you something, being appreciated is more to a woman than a gift. It is feeling loved and knowing that what we are doing has a significant difference in whether you come home or go out to a strip club with one of your buddies.
We don't stop being the same person, it is how you make us feel about ourselves that stops us, because we want to hear that you believe that we are the same person that you married.
Being married should not change that way that you feel about the person you gave your life to, but should enrichen it.
Take us for granted and we feel like crud. Show us that we mean something to you, and we will give you the world. Don't expect something you may or may not have been given in the past, because we want to feel like we are worth something.
This type of behavior only occurs in marriages like mine.
Used to get, I love and appreciate you everyday. Get no contact or I love you hardly ever. Resentment builds up, and tolerance is gone.
Love your wife or girlfriend and show her what she means to you. Surprise her with a dozen roses of her favorite kind, or a bracelet, or a necklace. Doesn't have to be expensive, but you will be surprised at the reward.
Don't mess this up! Going thru it and considering a 2nd divorce. Neglect is the worst thing you can do for a marriage or take it for granted because you signed your name on the dotted line. I don't even have a wedding ring, yet have been married 3+ years. Still with, but no motive or showing to get me one. Tell me. Paid for mine both times, but has been stolen each time. How would you feel with those priorities?
You did it, accept responsibility. We don't change the way we feel, you make us change. Hurt us too many times, by the way that I previosuly mentioned, and forget it. We shut down. Otherwise, we will cry or go find what we want somewhere else. I knew, when someone made me laugh, something that my husband couldn't do anymore, then it was done. Do You want that?
Goodnight Guys!!! Last Answer for tonite. Do the right thing dude, it will haunt you the rest of your life. Open up communications some way or somehow. Don't loose what you got or you wouldn't have married her at all.
2007-03-14 02:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by r-alert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at the whole picture.
Are you exactly the same? Do you pamper her as you did? Do you shower after work? What do you expect from her as far as household duties and do you help her.
And more importantly, if she does not enjoy doing whatever it is, why do you feel she should do it anyway? Maybe she has changed her mind about some things, I am sure you have also.
Good luck
2007-03-14 01:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is very vague, there is no details of what she did or did not do.
People do change from time to time, like after marriage. Whether you been trick or not, you are the best person to know. Do not jump to conclusion.
Good Luck
2007-03-14 01:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it can be the case! Thats what my husband did! He was very nice and sweet then cahnged into this monster! I am not sure if this is your case! I cant understand why they do this we eventually find out the truth and I think thats why there are so many divorces! Only if we knew what was in store!! Good luck!
2007-03-14 01:58:54 · answer #5 · answered by pittbull mommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the question is " HOW MUCH MONEY DO YOU MAKE?" lol she could be but most marriages start off great and then go to original, now ask yourself do you do the same things for her you did when you first got married?
2007-03-14 01:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by krissandrahunt 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"things" is a little bit vague for such a loaded question.
I'm going to guess that seeming as how you are asking this question, you are bothered by the 'things' she does or does not do for you. Why don't you talk to her about it?
A great way is to say "You know when you did _________ before we were married for me, I really like/appreciated/enjoyed it when you did that for me. Instead of the more confrontational (she may feel offened) "Why don't you do _______ for my anymore?!"
Good luck
2007-03-14 01:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by jcandrews00 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, welcome to marriage. if you still get head, you are set.
2007-03-14 02:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Akela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋