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Im 22 and I recently found out my girlfriend was pregnant, i'm really nervous and feel that my mother should know. My mom is irrational and explosive at times. How should I go about it and what or where would be a good place?

2007-03-13 18:42:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

11 answers

Ok... honestly is always the best policy, but a little tact and good timing is still a good idea. There is no fool proof way to tell her other than to just sit her down and telling her you have something serious to discuss with her. Then in a mature way just tell her your girlfriend is pregnant and tell her right then what you are planning to do about it; Whether you plan to get married, live together, or whatever you two have worked out. DO NOT just blurt out after saying pass the salt that she is pregnant and then not have any idea what you two are going to do. You mom may be irrational and even with you being mature and trying to make a plan she make freak out. I don't know her or her personality, but I do know she will react a lot better if you at least appear to have some idea what direction you are going to go with this issue. You're 22! Thats adult age. You got your girlfriend pregnant. That was an adult thing to do. Now act like an adult, suck it up and keep being an adult. Your on a roll :)

2007-03-13 18:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

First, i do hope u have a job... if you do, at your age i dont think it would be as difficult if you were 18 or 20. It would really be best that mom knows about this. Sometimes at home is the best place, maybe when you're able to start or mom starts a chat, slowly ask her if she would mind knowing something important about you and how important this thing would mean for you and that you at your best intentions hope she would welcome this warmly... This could work or she may take it differently. But remember, only time really heals and you can never force things to be accepted at once. Stay low and remember that you should know how to get your mother's good side.. I hope too that mom has already met the girlfriend coz i think it might be a bad start to meet her this way. Just be honest, understand your mom, and be sweet to her... im sure when the little baby comes out, she'd love her...

2007-03-14 02:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by cheeechay 1 · 2 0

My mother in law was the same way. My wife told her mother over the phone, and then when she had calmed down in person. Start by saying that you really love her, which i hope you do. And that you are going to be responsible and take care of your family the way you should, And that might be what she needs to hear. Thinking that you are irresponsible might make her think differently. And if she doesnt take the news well, she is your mother and she is (like it or not) going to be a grandmother too. And she will melt when she sees the baby. And if you dont speak for awhile, sometimes thats what it takes. Good Luck, but she is your mother and she loves you.

2007-03-14 01:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

What's your problem? Just tell her that your girl friend may be pregnant. Are you expecting a violent reaction?

For one thing, I believe your mom would know more about how to handle these things. Depending on the values of your family, the reaction may range anywhere from "Let's abort the baby." to "You got to marry that girl." and in between would be "I told you to be careful. Why didn't you use condoms?"

2007-03-14 01:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by vercast 4 · 2 0

take a video of the sonogram or the sonogram pics in and just show them to her. tell her you have something you want her to see. or take her to dinner if you feel uncomfortable doing it in private. do it by yourself though. dont let your girlfriend get upset or humiliated by it. or if nothing else fails, call her on the phone and tell her there is something youened to talk about and you want to tell her in person but youdont want her blowing up about it, then maybe she will ifgure it out and not be as upsest as you thought.
eventually though , no matter what, she will get over it and spoiil the baby rotten so no worries and great luck to you

2007-03-14 03:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by mustangmommy77 1 · 1 0

what you need to do if take out to dinner where she like to eat not just you tell your mom you and your girlfriend tell together it show ya love each other and see will see that she will get made but she won't yell because your girlfriend will be with you it take her a few days then will be OK

i wish you the best of luck

2007-03-14 01:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by piglet91 2 · 2 0

just be up front with her,she will respect u told her the sooner the better...there is never a right or wrong way to tell someone this..u are a grown man,dont be afraid of your mom..everything will be alright. good luck and congrats daddy!!

2007-03-14 02:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

"Mom, my girlfriend is pregnant with my baby and I intend to take care of them both".

2007-03-14 01:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 2 0

my bf's mom is like that too...when i got pregnant, he told her right away..his mom got mad and upset...so emotional but theres nothin she can do...my bf was 22 before too...

it is you who decide for your future...mommys are there to guide protect and give advice to you...but decisions are all yours...no matter what...tell her you love her and you want her to be happy for you, coz you r happy of whats going on now...im telling you its all worth it...
she'll understand...maybe not right away but it takes time...she'll be happy for you...

2007-03-14 01:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by Phoebe 2 · 2 0

I think I'm going to stay out of this.

2007-03-14 01:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by JADE 6 · 0 1

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