I am 9 weeks pregnant, my boyfriend of three years says it would be irresponsible to bring a child into the world as he is still in university and i am just getting by on my 2 low paying jobs. part of me agrees the other part wants to find a way to keep it. To top it off we were taking precautions- i have been on the pill religiously for ten years. I also am on strong antidepressants that the doctor says will likely cause complications. HELP!
2007-03-13 18:21:03 · 9 answers · asked by blackkittyisis 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
wow first you need to apply for medicade to be the insurance for you and the baby , then get a specialist that deals with problem pregnanceys and have the fetus checked by a monogram machine . the doc will lead you from there. if it was me i would keep the child thats me im poor but life is fast so live it
2007-03-13 18:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by dan m 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can always "afford" a baby, if you want it. There is lots of help out there. After ten years of waiting I think you may reallly have wanted this baby.
The anti-depressants may cause "complications," but probably won't stop you from having a healthy baby if you reduce dosage and take other precautions. Get some help on this soon. Some people don't need anti-depressents when they are pregnant.
I don't know you, and can only go on what you have said in your question, but I think from what I've read that the boyfriend is what you can't afford. He sounds very selfish and irresponsible with respect to your feelings. Having a baby isn't irresponsible--just not wanting to be bothered with one you've created certainly is.
2007-03-14 02:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should have the baby. I am pro choice, but I do think that deciding not to have the baby may haunt you in the future. If your BF is serious about being with you , he will finish school and support the child. It is good having children when you are young, because all these people having kids in their 40s are going to be dead by the time their children are done with school. Plus, a child may cheer you up and get you off the pills. (you dont want to be on that crap for life) It may be tough at first, but you can do it and it is your duty as someone who has brought a child into existance.
2007-03-14 01:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by michael p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are at a tough crossroad right now. No one should never not have a child, if you really want one, because of money. You will somehow make it work. But if you really want this child, do not let money stand in the way. You have a very BIG decision to make and you need the support of everyone around you right now. In that you managed to get pregnant while on the pill for so long, some will take that as a sign of God that he wanted you to have this baby. I hope everything works out for the best.
2007-03-14 01:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by dj_jonesd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a life inside of you. It is there and if you abort the pain and regret that will haunt you will be devestating, I have aborted once and regretted it ever since. Their are agencies out there to help you. To pay for low housing, medical and even help you with groceries. I would apply for them and since your boyfriend is not feeling the same as you, apply for them alone. You can keep this child. My first pregnancy was at 18 with no family no money and her dad left. I picked a family to adopt her, but couldn't go through with it. My daughters fathers parents helped, the goverment helped and I got on my feet and off assistance a short time later. You have paid taxes, don't feel guilty getting goverment help. My daughter will graduate in May. She turned 18 a week ago, and she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I to suffer from depression, but their are anti depressants you can take while pregnant and pregnancy is temporary, a child to love is forever. Please get counseling and take action to get assistance. If you choose adoption that to is a wonderfull option where medical and expenses are paid, but I hear in your letter that you already love this child. I would encourage you to take one day at a time, reach out for help and in 18 years enjoy the child you have raised and watch them graduate. It happened for me it can happen for you. Good luck, and God bless.
2007-03-14 01:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Shyler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should keep your baby no matter what. Keep on trying to find a way to keep your baby, you will find a way. Just don't let your boyfriend scare you into abortion..it could be a decision that you would regret for the rest of your life.
2007-03-14 01:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is selfish..he is not thinking of your baby,hes thinking of himself..when me and my man were where u are he never once told me that,he stood by me,got a job and we made it through the VERY hard times...sooo many people have babies while still in school and do just fine...what an *******! u can afford a baby..there is soo much help out there and babies are not as expensive as people say they are..trust me. if u really really cannot keep your baby then adoption *its 100% free*....whatever u do dont take his advice.u will regret it...
2007-03-14 01:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby already has a Soul and I think that even if you cant support the child you have to try to give the baby a chance at life, Will you be able to live the rest of your life knowing you killed a child and not giving it a chance at life? Think about that before you do anything you cant live with for the rest of your life!!!
2007-03-14 01:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jewelz 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is up to you as to what you want. No one can make up your mind for you, that is something you have to do.
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2007-03-14 01:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋