What is the best way to overcome something that happens to you?

Question

My friend has lost his left eye while playing futsal. I mean his left eye is malfunction now and he cannot see a thing by using his left eye.

Answer 1

well first as a friend i would let them know that i would be there for them and nothing has changed in our friendship. Really its just as simple as facing the reality, you are not dead life has and will go on yes there may be some changes you will have to make but, feeling sorry for yourself only makes you stressed which leads to depression and just lots of other things that God didn't intend for you. We'll have bad things happen to us but you have to let go and let God. You might not be a spiritual person but tell you friend just to pray on really believe that God will make it better.

Answer 2

The best think he could do is discuss this with his doctor and a good physiotherapist and an ophthalmologist. Let him know you are by his side for this. Let him know that this accident is not going to effect your relationship. Then, it is for him to do as he is advised.

It must be really harsh, because this will effect his life. It will complicate many normal activities but for sure his strength of will and a good friend like you will help him pull through.The LostEye site has a section on the emotional changes he could possibly be dealing with. Be prepared for him to go up and down on an emotional roller coaster until he adjusts to the reality of his new situation. This is where you come in.

He will have to learn to take special care of his other eye because it will be working twice as hard. This will also seriously effect his depth of perception. He will have to watch his step for a little while until he is accustomed to this.

http://www.losteye.com/

http://medweb.bham.ac.uk/easdec/poor_vision_in_one_eye.html

http://www.afb.org/message_board_replies.asp?TopicID=643&FolderID=14

http://www.abledata.com/abledata_docs/Hemi-MonoVision-Aids.pdf

http://www.losteye.com/driving.htm

These sites are excellent. I think from a quick perusal that the LOST EYE site is the best under the circumstances. It is written in easy terminology and discusses everything involved in this situation including driving.

I hope this helps. Your friend is lucky to have a caring companion. Good luck to you both!

Answer 3

Adaptation would work well for him. He must learn to compensate by developing a keen sense of hearing on the injured side, learn to turn his head more in order to increase his field of vision and to be more aware of things that are happening around him.

He would also benefit from a good attitude. What happened can not be changed, but how he reacts to it can. He can be thankful for the abilities and strengths he still has. He should try to volunteer with children or people who have greater obstacles in their lives than that, it will make him appreciate what he still has and value life in ways he has not before.

Answer 4

Well, I know a man with one eye, who also happens to be one fine darter. The secret is to not let it bother you.