A guy I had a crush on in school got in touch with me he's in the army and after just two weeks of e-mail,IM, and phone conversations he wants to marry me and wants me to move with him where he is stationed he's been married twice, he is coming home next month and said lets just get married now, now i'm getting concern can somebody explain this? what's the rush?
2007-03-13 18:16:03 · 11 answers · asked by ladybug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like someone to back off from immediately. He is obsessive, impulsive, and lacks common sense. Think of those qualities in daily life and how it may affect your future. I think he sounds like someone you don't want to get involved with.
2007-03-13 18:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by wickdsinnr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh! Here's the scoop. These guys get lonely. There is nothing worse for a military man to never get cards...or packages...or words of encouragement, especially when their buddies get it all the time. Being married in the military is a prestige thing too...but considering he's twice divorce....something's not right. It takes a strong woman to be married to an army guy. Do not marry him. I'm not saying never, I'm just saying right now. You said "coming home," I'm assuming he's deployed? Definitly do not marry!!! These guys come home and they are not right in the head sometimes. Give him time to get used to not sleeping with a gun...then see what he wants.
2007-03-14 01:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Silver B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. You are not ready for a commitment. As he has been married twice, ask him if has really sat down to think what failed in his 2 marriages. He needs to know that marriage is a lifetime commitment and it is more than sex. It requires a good understanding of the other person and his character and basically, you need a lot of love to keep the marriage going. So he has to have responsibilities and that has he the means to support you? Does he have a good paying job to support you? If not, tell him to wait. It would not hurt if you have waited.
2007-03-14 01:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thought is that there is a reason his first two marriages failed. Why not see if you can get in touch with his previous wives and "pick" their brains find out what life was REALLY like with him before you even THINK about marrying the guy.
2007-03-14 01:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to my fiance (in the Army) he says he would get basic allowance for housing and his BAQ increases. Now does this guy love you after 2 weeks of chatting? Ever wonder why his last two marriages failed?
2007-03-14 01:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T marry him so fast. If he's been married twice...what makes you think he's ready for a third time? He's lonely & scared. And that's not a good reason to marry someone.
2007-03-14 01:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't touch previously married men, they have problems they haven't resolved yet with their former wives and will only bring the problems into your marriage, even though they don't admit it, or atleast this one sounds like he does.
2007-03-14 01:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by emerys4christ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this guy. He is already a two time loser. If he is in such a rush you need to step back and really give this another look see.
2007-03-14 01:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feeling is that after two marriages, it just numbers.
Run as fast as you can away from this nut.
2007-03-14 01:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too quick to marry
2007-03-14 01:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋