2007-03-13 18:09:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
not exactly an answer to your question, but i have heard that if you are going to have a "discussion" or arguement, you should NOT do it on an empty stomach. make it wait till after your meal. many people feel better after they have eaten
2007-03-13 18:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by AlwaysWondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is the right time and place for the talk then we would sit down and have a civil discussion about something. Usually in my relationship whoever has the problem 1. States the problem without being degrading while the other person listens. 2. Then the other person says what they feel about the problem. and 3. Come to a solution about the problem together.
Usually this is how we do it. If it is not the right time, we usually set up a time later to discuss the problem at hand.
2007-03-14 01:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by ShaBoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, picking the best time is key. If he's had a frustrating, demoralizing, angry day at work, he's not going to be very receptive to whatever you have to talk about. Make sure he's not focusing on something else (sports, a favorite tv show, something else you know he's deeply into) and not real tired (some people get grouchy when they're tired). When the time is right, he ought to pay attention and give you honest feedback--if it is something he won't like be prepared to argue or have to deal with hot or hurt feelings.
2007-03-14 01:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be open to listening to you and comforting you. The problem with men is that they think when their girl comes to them with something, they think they need to FIX it. Thus they come across rough. Tell your man(when he is in a good open mood) That women deal with things differently than women do. Ask him to JUST listen when you have something on your chest. Promise to not rag or blame or bad mouth them ( who wants to listen to that) Then tell him you just need to talk and don't need him to fix it unless you ask him to.Then tell him that there might be times when you need to cry. And ask him to just hold you and not fix things and you promise to not rag on him.
All this needs to be prearranged before you need to talk to him.
Think about it, if you start blaming him for everything, why would he even listen to you. And if you are crying and telling him all he is doing wrong, why would he want to comfort you.?
Save the intense personal things for later when the emotions aren't so fired up.
2007-03-14 01:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those three little words guaranteed to turn a man's blood cold; "need to talk".
2007-03-14 01:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by altered ego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He MUST sit his azz down and listen no mater what, and share his thoughts about the conversation, thats what a real man must do....
2007-03-14 01:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by Snake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should respond as he feels like responding. That is WHY they call it communication.
2007-03-14 01:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my man needs to be loving and kind and accepting of what i need to say!
2007-03-14 01:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by splenda sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With love and concern.
2007-03-14 01:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE SHOULD SIT AND LISTEN TO WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND AND /OR WHAT YOU THINK SHOULD OR SHOULDN'T BE ..THAT IS WHAT'S WRONG NOW DAYS THESE MEN WON'T PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR LADIES AND IT MAKES ME UPSET
HOW I WISH , I HAD A WOMAN TO SIT WITH AND LISTEN TO HER PROBLEMS
2007-03-14 01:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Swm 39 4 Younger Swf Forever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋