A long time ago, before my husband and I became Christians he said that he had gone to see a dancer and that she had made him feel sexier than anyone else has ever made him feel, including myself. What do I do? According to the info he gave me I've done everything that this girl has done for him physically, but he can't explain how she did it (it, meaning making him feel that way when he was with her.) Could it have to do with looks? I mean I did everything, danced, public affection, everything intimate, (i mean duh, i'm his wife). But I do admit I do have some weight on me, I mean I just had a baby, and have been trying to lose weight for some time but every time I do I get prego. But besides the weight I am a very attractive woman (not trying to be prideful, just honest and frank) Do you think it has to do with my weight, or something else?
2007-03-13 18:04:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know that my husband love me so much. I had baby and he (my husband) complimented me all time same being a little above the weight. and this maked me feel very well. I back to the normal weight and I m so happy with he. (but I m very excited with girls - I m sorry!) First I m so thank that you added me how friend. Thank you really!
2007-03-14 02:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Curiosa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you enjoy him? My looks could stop a clock after I had a baby and all, but human beings like to know their companionship is enjoyed, and my husband liked being married to a wife who enjoyed him. If you truly enjoy your husband, and that includes more than sex, some of those other things you are talking about probably don't matter all that much. If you are too tired to enjoy your husband or if he makes demands on you without making any effort to be your "dancer," then you have a different kind of problem. Excuse me for suggesting this, but you may have to hit him over the head with your Bible if he is just trying to control you by being impossible to please. Good luck.
2007-03-14 01:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by callmeplayfair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I learned the trick from my beautiful boss when I was in my teens,she was a Countess ,she married a Spanish Count.It is the attention with a capital A. Like he is the handsome man you have ever seen,and your focus is totally to him,even there is a bomb exploded or fire you are still engrossed with him. Men are visual and good mind reader ,a woman should have a stimulating signal to a man ,that is the bottom line.I dated a guy that said to me I am great,but, it's alright that I am chubby,ouch!!
2007-03-14 01:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Vannili 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use words like "incredible, wow, holy s*, etc." after the deeds been done. Make it sound like a surprise too...like it was the first time in your life. Just to let you know though...I've been to strip clubs before...and the strippers are boring. I was amazed to see that most men didn't even look at them unless the stripper was in their face wanting a private dance. Even then, the men can't touch...so I really don't see what she could have done.
2007-03-14 01:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Silver B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually don't help in these situations but, I will help you. He will never admit this but he's manipulating you. Trust me he's trying to get something your not doing. In most cases could be anal sex. GROSS! Anyways to solve said problem simply reverse the situation. Make him work to make you feel sexy. This will bring him back to reality. Very important! Woman are always sexier before a man has sex with her for first time. For men anyways... Good Luck!
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2007-03-14 01:13:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep getting pregnant you must be doing something right.
It could have just been the mood he was in when that happened, I question why he told you that. You come thru as a warm loving woman and he should thank God he has you.
Good luck
2007-03-14 01:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands"
2007-03-14 01:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did he go and see a dancer for? Lessons?
Anyways....sounds like it's not physical. Ask him about her personality.
Sadly, it sounds like you are trying to live up to whatever this woman did. How does your husband make YOU feel?
2007-03-14 01:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's baiting you, silly. Its a trick men use. Don't take the bait, be happy and confident in your skin, and you'll be the most desirable woman on earth.
2007-03-14 01:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, honey, but all you can be is you. The only thing you can do is spark up your personality! Add some humor, make fun of yourself, lighten the mood with some stupid jokes! It worked for my hubby! I make him laugh all of the time, and that is truly what both of us are attracted to.......someone that can make you laugh!
2007-03-14 01:42:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋