She is in Thailand and I am in the US. We are both focused on our medical school career; however, I do not see why we cannot have both the career and each other. She is 26 years old and I am turning 28 this year. I am also Thai. And in Thailand, women are accustom to getting married around this age. However, the one she loves is me, but I cannot yet moved to work in Thailand for a few years. She wants to take this chance but is now worried that if it does not workout she will be almost 30 and may not have someone to marry her. I have told her of my passed relationship and have also been in a 3 year long distance relationship, which did not work out because my ex-girlfriend could not do it anymore. However, I was and am capable to go the distance. I do love my Thai girlfriend and have discussed with her about marriage. She also wants to marry me, but she is still afraid to put everything in one basket. Please help me gain her trust. Teach me how to speak to her. Thank you.
2007-03-13 18:02:21 · 4 answers · asked by Sy P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow, that is soooo sweet! all u have to do is show her youlove her
2007-03-13 18:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Thai girlfriend has a certain unresolved fear about your relationship. Why don't you meet up with her and ask her to list down what are her fears and what holds her from going through your plans together in life? When she has done so, go through them one by one explaining and enlightening her with all honesty and in your best capacity. Dialog with her, listen to her and after all these, prove yourself that you are faithful to her by living up to your promises. Should both of you get married, you can bring her first with you to US. She can obtain a job there while waiting for you to be able to return back to Thailand. Know that as a young couple, especially when you do not have children yet, it is quite risky to be away from each other. I noted a number of people who had this experience. All the best to you!
2007-03-13 18:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Binnus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman I understand your gf point of view. Well as you are separated at the moment, I think to maintain this trust in the relationship needs alot of effort and time if you want it to work. Yes, she is worried about the " marrying age " but she must trust you from her heart. You must convince day by day that she is in your thoughts and you care very much for her and that you are doing the best to have a better future for both of you. Tell her what you intend to do and the future. Maybe with this knowledge in mind, she will trust you and wait for you. Good luck.
2007-03-13 18:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry the girl. then work it out from there !
2007-03-13 18:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋