how to annoy psychos?

Question

my husband loves the joint family and doesnt want to move out but my MIL is seriously a mental woman who pulls dangerous dramas that only a cheap would do such an act..i think its best for my kids and my husband to live else where bcuz there r daily fights shes got energy but i dont have enegry to fight i want peace,,is there a way i can annoy her so she finally has truth to the lies she tells her son..tell me wayz to annoy her so she can go more psycho so my husband finally gets us our own home without her

she has full energy to fight daily she doesnt get tired..my heart beats fast n i get sweaty nervous i cant fight back im not leaving my man cus shes aiming 4this. i have a baby we r two innocent people who care bout eachother shes putting posion between us HELP!

Answer 1

You should move out. Not for the reason that is insane but maybe some peace for your growing family. As for your MIL, has she gotten any help from the doctor yet? Is she on medication? Well, if she is gonna be along in the house, I suggest getting her to a welfare home where she could get medication and treatment and care from nurses and company from fellow patients there. Not sure if you are into that but give it a thought and I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Tough question sister! Well since I called you my sister, here is my brotherly advice. Try not to annoy the psycho. If she continues to fight then you need to convince my brother in law. How can you do it? Well if he is of the that loves both mom and wife then it is tough. He needs proof. Just make a video dairy of the crazy ***** in action. Wait for a long time like until you have a couple of hours of footage. Do not trouble your husband when he comes back from work and start complaing to him about lifes problems. Give him time, let him cool down. Go for a walk. Have a nice time. Just yet dont tell him. Let him enjoy the peace an quiet for a but long. Be intimate and as a brother I cant go into details! when all is said and done mildly let him know you and the psycho had an argument and you will tell him the details when he is ready to listen. Do not fight with him. It will be tough for him to choose between you and her. When the time is right and you have had enough spring the video and let your husband know he needs to make a choice. He will come around if he truly loves you. sorry for being long winded!! I would like come over and talk to the psycho but you know I cant. Good luck!

Answer 3

Tough question sister! Well since I called you my sister, here is my brotherly advice.

Try not to annoy the psycho. If she continues to fight then you need to convince my brother in law. How can you do it? Well if he is of the that loves both mom and wife then it is tough. He needs proof. Just make a video dairy of the crazy ***** in action. Wait for a long time like until you have a couple of hours of footage. Do not trouble your husband when he comes back from work and start complaing to him about lifes problems. Give him time, let him cool down. Go for a walk. Have a nice time. Just yet dont tell him. Let him enjoy the peace an quiet for a but long. Be intimate and as a brother I cant go into details! when all is said and done mildly let him know you and the psycho had an argument and you will tell him the details when he is ready to listen. Do not fight with him. It will be tough for him to choose between you and her. When the time is right and you have had enough spring the video and let your husband know he needs to make a choice. He will come around if he truly loves you.

sorry for being long winded!! I would like come over and talk to the psycho but you know I cant. Good luck!

Answer 4

There's a proverb which goes "if u can't beat the crowd, then join the crowd". So why not u also do over the top drama and convince your hubby that his mom is indeed "devil in disguise". See i'm the type of person who thinks that a son shud stay together with his family even after marriage. But if the in-laws or sometimes even the biwi is creating problem, the hubby shud be wise enough to see it from both sides and not close one eye. He shud be fair and just to both parties and be stern with the guilty ones. Take control of the situation and not let one person manupilate the other person. Talk to him again and make him see sense. Don't nag him but talk to him. Don't make out his mom to be a monster but show and tell him her faults. At the same time admit your own faults also if you have any. Tell him u're not asking him to move away but for him to talk to his mom. Maybe if he talk to her, he'll either put sense into the old hag or even better see the "devil" in action.

Answer 5

The problem is he is use to living in a household with a crazy woman. To him this fighting is normal. I am sure she gets nutty and the next minute she acts like nothing happened. I have a mil like that. The only thing that you can do to get under her skin is smile, be nice, and agree with her. Do as you please just yes her to death. The reason behind this is she is going to win with the fight but, take her out of the ring and she will not know what to do. You are no match for her when it comes to the arguing she has had lots of practice so put her on another playing field and you will win. She can not fight with herself and will soon back off of you as she can not fight with herself. As far as both of you living there I do not understand why or for how long you agreed to do this.

Answer 6

This is all good advice...but it really all boils down to the fact that you are his WIFE. He married you, not his mother--which is what Freud would say is the problem in the 1st place--he married you and left Mommydearest in the mud. Now then, he needs to stick up for you and let his mother see him do it, or this will never end. I would suggest he say something like, "This is my wife and you will not speak to her in this manner, if you have a problem then from now on you will bring it to me." Period. Your mil and your husband are teaching your children to disrespect you. I suspect there may be a little passive-aggression pointed at you here...maybe your husband is using his mother to "keep you in line?" Move out, THEN build a relationship w/mil you may find things more balanced on your own turf. Assure hubby that you'd love her to VISIT your new house. (My hub's reading over my shoulder and says "If that doesn't work, push her down the stairs. :) :) Just kidding-violence is never, well, not usually the answer.

Answer 7

attacking his mother verbally to him is only going to get his back up even more. don't try to act like her, it will only backfire and you will be in worse straits than you are now.
you could go as far as renting a hidden camera kinda thing and maybe that would show him what its like when he isn't there, but even that could backfire.
whatever you do, bite your tongue if you have to, but remain the sweet loving wife. she wants you to snap and turn into a shrew so she can point her finger and show him she was right all along. so, keep you cool, i know its hard, but you have to do it.
about all you can do is start a diary, document in writing all that happens on a daily basis. keep this for a month and then show it to him and see what he says.
if he continues to side with her then you are going to have to make a choice, your sanity or your husband. i would suspect if you and the children moved out and into your own place he would soon follow.
i wish i had a magic answer but i don't.
good luck and stay cool....let us know how it turns out.

Answer 8

Have you discussed this with him? Does he believe you or his mother? If you think he requires convincing that his mother can actually stoop to such levels, then you will have to get proof of that.

Just tell your husband that the next time she fights with you, you will call him from your mobile & keep it switched on without speaking so that he can hear everything his mother says to you.

And when she does fight, call him up from your mobile & hang it around your neck so the clarity is clear & your husband can finally believe you & take necessary action to relieve you from this hell.

In the meanwhile, pray to Almighty God that he gives you the strength to bear this & to help you in overcoming this.

Answer 9

Your Mother in law is your husbands mother and you have him with you today because of her. The sooner you accept and respect this fact all situation in your house will be normal. Your husband is a nice man as he loves his mother and is still living with her after his marriage. Try treating your mother in law with some love and respect and watch her in return- Do not be the proverbial bad wife who separates the son from his own parents after marriage for in this you are the loser as parents love is something one never gets in a supermarket.

Answer 10

Marriage is many things; Faith in each other, Trust, Patience, and Love. Some people, may just don't feel right around their son's wife, or maybe it's mutual, but one thing is bottom-line.......you and your soul-mate need to work it out, or there is only one other way, and you all lose. God Bless !!