he changes then without considering anyone else! This weekend we were suppose to go out of town to my sister's, we were taking his son, this was good because lots of kids are going to be there, my sister and I were looking forward to it. Well his son wants to bring a friend so instead of telling his son NO my husband cancelled all of "our" plans and told his son yes and that "we" would stay home for the weekend. I think that this is rude and that he shouldn't give his 12 year old son his way all the time and ruin everyone else's plans - yes he don't believe in saying no to his kid.
See my previous question, how much more can I take? I am I wrong for being upset here? Or am I overreacting?
ARG this keeps costing me points but I need someone else's input!
2007-03-13 17:38:22 · 8 answers · asked by Rosie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not over reacting. You need to make it clear to him that for now on you expect him to discuss things with you before he gives his son any answers. This shows that your feelings are not priority to him and they should be.
2007-03-13 18:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your husband is not teaching his son what being a family is all about. He should be grateful that you would try to include his son in on anything with your family. Tell your husband that if he expects you to be there for his son, that his son will have to put himself out sometimes, and not be selfish. A 12 year old is old enough to understand when something is just plain old inconsiderate. You are not wrong for being upset, your husband has disrespected you, and I dont think you should tolerate it.
2007-03-14 01:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As this was to be a family outing to your sister's place, I think your hubby should have discussed it with you and that was it ok to have the friend over. He should not have taken liberty to answer the boy but yes, it might appear to be rude but I guess your hubby is trying to show that he has the "power" to decide. For now, I think you should have a talk with him if such situation happen again and voice your opinion that you wish to be included in the decision making. Tell him that you would appreciate it very much.
2007-03-14 00:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't overreacting. He should have said no to his son and let him know that you all had plans as a family for the weekend. He could always reschedule his son's plans with the other friend on another weekend.
2007-03-14 00:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have something against your sister? was he enthusiastic about going in the first place? it may have been that your son just gave him the excuse he needed to get out of it. now here's the question. why couldn't your son take the friend with you? would that be completely catastrophic? i think you're justified in being upset that he changed plans without consulting you, and i think that generally speaking, you're right, but you need to talk to him and find out what his thinking was. maybe he forgot.
2007-03-14 00:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should of gone on to your sisters with out him and his son learn your husband a thing or two
2007-03-14 00:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face it, you married a man with a kid and his kid will always come first.
2007-03-14 00:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you go without him?
2007-03-14 01:01:19 · answer #8 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋