I keep ending up sleeping with another guy when my boyfriend isn't there when I need it. I really want to stop doing this. I want to be a faithful girlfriend and have a healthy relationship with him but sex keeps me from it. I am not planning on telling him whats really been going on. I want to be a good girlfriend to him... what can I do? and have you ever been in a situation like this too? Can you share your story with me if it's alright with you
2007-03-13 17:24:26 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to break up with your boyfriend and let him find a woman who can be trusted. He deserves better than you. Then you can crawl back under your rock.
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2007-03-13 17:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your a little impulsive. I can relate to not having a boyfriend around when you need him. It can be terrible when you REALLY want some and can't have any because he's MIA. Instead of running to the next guy who will temporarily satisfy your lust, call your bf. Tell him how you feel. Try phone sex or masturbation or something kinky like that. And somehow find a way to WAIT till you can be with your bf because the sex is ALWAYS amazing when you haven't had any in a while.
But since you have already cheated on your boyfriend you've already wronged him and spat on your relationship. If you want a healthy relationship then you can't go on with the relationship with this huge secret. You should tell him before you give your bf some sort of STD!
Finally, maybe your sleeping with other guys to get that something you aren't getting in your relationship with your boyfriend. I'm not just talking about sex. It could be as simple as needing to share a bond with someone else.
SO what can you do? Tell your boyfriend, get dumped or renew your relationship, figure out what was wrong in your relationship, learn from it and move on.
2007-03-13 18:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by dumdum4eva 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want to be a faithful girlfriend and have a healthy relationship with your boyfriend (or anyone else, for that matter) then there is one and only one simple answer -- do not cheat.
There is no excuse at all for cheating on another person. None whatsoever. Cheating is a choice that you make -- you either choose to be faithful or you choose not to be. The choices you make are your responsibility and you will either reap the benefits or suffer the consequences.
If you really love him, then you will not cheat on him. If you do not feel that you can control yourself around others, then do your boyfriend a favor and end the "relationship" now and save him from further heartache.
2007-03-13 17:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not many ppl have this problem. Most can control themselves, so ur not gonna get many stories.. a relationship is about honesty and trust.. u have NEITHER. come on girl. get a grip. don't live life this way. ur better than that. life isn't a garden so don't be a hoe. im not being mean or anything, i think u could be the best gf any guy ever had, but not if u act like this. it's just so wrong. you have to try harder. if u can't stop cheating break up with him. and make sure he knows why so he doesn't think he did something wrong. no one can help you, only you can. no one can make you stop, only you can. but if u aren't gonna try to make that choice.. forget it. cheating, wow, thats low. for ANYONE.
2007-03-13 17:35:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This seems like it could almost be a sex addiction. You cheat on him because you want sex, not because you want anything else from these guys. People cheat for different reasons, some as a self-esteem booster, others because they feel their relationship is lacking in some way and others because they need that sex "fix" there and then. I would suggest seeing a therapist, because a sex addiction is just like any other addiction and the best way to deal with it to genuinely want to change and stare it down in it's ugly face by seeing a professional. You've already completed step one, go for step two. Good luck!
2007-03-13 17:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you dont need to have a boyfriend! You obviously dont care too much about him or you wouldnt want to cheat on him. Ive been cheated on before and its the worst feeling to know that the person who you thought loved you, would betray you and disrespect you like that.
If you truly love and care about him, than you will stop doing this too him. Cheating is a selfish and immature thing.
either stop and be a good girlfriend or just be single.
And by the way, if your gonna keep being with him then you need to tell him. A relationship built on lies will NOT work out, trust me.
Good luck though!!
2007-03-13 17:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by princessamber_89 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need help, not in a bad way. I think you should seek counseling because you are only going to end up hurting yourself. Your boyfriend does not deserve for you to do this to him, and have your heard of Karma? This eventually is going to get you caught up, and you will hurt your boyfriend or end up giving him something. There are lots of diseases out there, condom or no condom, they are not 100% safe if you are not using them properly. People have got pregnant by other people they go sleeping around with and end up telling the boyfriend it's his, when it's not!
2007-03-13 17:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by HOPE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, once a cheat, always a cheat... So good luck "stopping." Second, if you respect him, you need to tell him what you are doing, and gauge is response. He may not want to be with you, and you have no one to blame but yourself. Clearly your relationship is not that strong where you give into physical urges with someone other than your boyfriend. He deserves an explanation, and deserves much better
2007-03-13 17:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by flyin_gsxr600 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you are cheating on your boyfriend you should not be with him. If he finds out you can mess him up for life, he probably will have trust issues with women for life. If you care about him end the relationship. I cheated on a girlfriend before because her sex was boring.
2007-03-13 17:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by Real Talk! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're a sleaze. I'm sorry girl, but if you can't be faithful to him now what makes you think you can be faithful to him again? I mean, you can't expect to hide it from him forever. You need counseling and you need to learn how to get some self control. Sex doesn't keep you from anything-only YOU can control what you do.
So yeah, get some counseling, let your boyfriend know what's going on and learn how to get self control. If you really care about being a mature, faithful girlfriend and truly love your boyfriend then you'll do it.
Best of luck to you-you're gonna need it badly!
2007-03-13 17:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
break up with him and go have sex whenever you want, you are cheating on him and even with condoms there are risks of disease HPV warts & herpes, Dont hurt someone like that!!! Just break up and move on and stay single if you want to sleep around, dont involve an innocent person and keep hurting him, one day it will come back to you and it might not be in a good way
2007-03-13 17:36:50 · answer #11 · answered by Mahkka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋