Well there's this guy I'm apprenhenive about. Well he works at my gym, and there was alot fliritng action going on.He gave me his number, and I called him and he told me that i was very attractive, and invited me to workout with him, and to attend church..and that if i ever wanted to go out too a movie or hang out to call him..so I called him, and we made plans but he ended up cancelling so we set it up for the following week..and oops again we ended up not going out once again..so then he tells me "He'll let me know when he is available" and I'm like okay..sothe following week we talk this is all by text messaging by the way and I tell him to call me..and he tells me he can't dial out. and to call him ..and so i call him and we talk for an hour. And I find out that he's 25 and he still lives at hom, hasn't had a girlfriend in six years..hasn't had sex in a year,hasn;t finished school, but oversees his family church that he's heavily involved in....so my question is what do you think
2007-03-13 16:54:12 · 16 answers · asked by Velinda S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO I wouldn't date him; RED FLAGS 1) lives at home (you sure it's with his Mom and not his WIFE, 2) can't call out; 3) cancelled plans.....4) he'll call you.........
2007-03-13 17:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is....why is he always cancelling your dates when he's the one asking you to go out in the first place? He's wasting your time if he's always cancelling. A guy who will cancel out on you is obviously -your not that important to him & does he expect for you to wait around for him till he's "available"? You need to tell him to STEP. Also, you do not want to be dating a guy who still lives with his mom. Don't date any guy who's got a job "at the gym", it's o.k. for you to work there, but for him....why doesn't he got a better job? could it be the fact that he's uneducated? you mention he didn't finish school. Well, you need to kick him to the curb & find a guy who will not cancel out on you & tell you "i'll tell you when i'm available" BS like that, a guy who has a good job, money in his pocket that's not from selling drugs & a guy who's got a good education. You want to be dating winners, not losers. Think about it, all this stuff you know about him, HE IS A MESS & it's a good thing you saw it before you decided to get serious with him.
2007-03-14 00:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.
"Heavily involved in family church" = human sacrifice every Saturday night around the campfire up in the woods.
Okay, kidding aside, he sounds like he is very immature and still tied way too close to his family to have a real relationship. Finishing school is just a show of responsibility and maturity. So is moving out of Mommy's house. He has done neither. Notice he obviously goes home to "pray" with his mom about when he is available to do something grown up with a woman and it's - gasp! - NEVER.
So, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE.
2007-03-14 00:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I would not date him because he has bad manners, he broke two dates in a row before even going on one. He lives at home which means he has a poor work ethic and is attached to his mother. This is a recipe for disaster because he will be comparing you to his mothers standards. He has 3 strikes against him:
1.) Bad manners
2.)Lives at home for no good reason
3.)Has not had a relationship in 6 years (indicative of someone who has issues)
Its funny how this guy who thinks casual sex is ok is some how activily involved in his family church. Start ignoring this guy, he isnt worth your time.
2007-03-14 01:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bonzai Betty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pshh the guy sounds like a loser. If you are the unlucky woman to date this guy in a serious relationship it'll be hard to train him. 25 and still living at home with no schooling sounds like a dead end that no woman wants to tread, hence the lack of relationships.
2007-03-14 00:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No youre too young for him right? He isnt coming after you cuz youre probably jailbait....wait till youre 18.....or let a younger guy come after you.....forget him Hes an adult..
2007-03-14 00:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him since he can't dial out, neither can you and it was nice knowing him while it lasted.
2007-03-14 00:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope - no decent, red-blooded, mature guy still lives at home at that age, regardless of the circumstances.
2007-03-14 08:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not worth being considered.
2007-03-14 00:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he's datable. And obviously you see the red flags.
Please pay them heed!
2007-03-14 00:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋