2007-03-13 16:47:36 · 12 answers · asked by studser5 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You need to wait until the right time to tell them. If you are worried about getting kicked out of the house and living on the street, just wait until you are out on you own, then they can accept you or hate you. You have the power. people who are family should love you no matter what, but that doesn't happen all the time. Use them for shelter and money, then go out on your own and BE YOURSELF. be gay and be happy. love yourself, but don't live on the street. Play the game till you can be yourself, the be Gay as can be.
2007-03-13 16:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by SIU 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should come out when you feel comfortable.
Two things could come out of this.
One is that your dad and brother might hate gays but when they find out you are, they become more open or receptive to the "lifestyle" (I really hate that term) as well as being more understanding.
Or they could continue to wallow in their hatred, thus making things harder for you.
My family has a "distaste" for homosexuality and they don't hide it. It's hard, especially being around them, but I take them for what they are. My mother is finally understanding that I am a lesbian but that does not entail every facet of my life. It is only a part of who I am.
I wish you the best of luck on this. It can turn out really good, or really bad, but either way, be true to yourself and be proud of who you are.
2007-03-13 17:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't suggest coming out yet. I think you should slowly try and make them more tolerant. Make sure you don't slip your cover, but do things that show NORMAL gay people. People that aren't pedophiles or super feminine perverts. My stepdad hated gay people too. I left copies of The Stranger around the house (It's Seattle's most awesome newspaper) and he didn't quite get it.
So one day, I just checked out like twenty books from the library. They were all titles like "Raising Gay Teens" and "The Parent's Guide to Gay Teens" and stuff like that. I left them all spread out across the coffee table. That was how I came out to him and he also actually decided to read one or two of them.
2007-03-13 17:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by sonny.hieu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man I always laugh at these know-alls who say "tell your parents and they will change their mind", to that i say bullshit.
You don't have to tell them anything about your sexual preferences and I advise you not to, if the hate gays syndrome exists (and your brother has been brainwashed by your Dad to hate gays) then he wont change his mind because he wont want to offend Big daddy. I advise you to wait until your self sufficient and let them find out in their own way. Remember you dint have to tell anyone including your family that your gay. Do you see guys running around telling everyone their heterosexuals, No of course not. Just live your life honestly, firstly to yourself, then when your self-sufficient to others, especially to your boyfriend(s) So good-luck in life man and remember it's your life and you have to live it, not your bigoted brother or bigoted old man.
2007-03-14 06:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whilst something on television radio or newspaper or maybe magazine the place ever they get their information from has something approximately gays in it wait till ultimately commercial (you be attentive to how interrupting throughout a software is rude, Then say "bear in concepts whilst they mentioned that approximately that gay guy/gal/parade etc,...How do you experience approximately them gays? you be attentive to alot of kinfolk's certainly be attentive to in the past their newborn "comes out," and extra human beings experience that this isn't any huge deal, your existence your decision. yet whilst they seem to disapprove then wait till ultimately you have your individual place job and existence, and then do no longer hid who you're, heck i'm on the instant and my mothers and dads rejected my existence type yet I stood my floor and we are as close as we will ever be, and besides the reality that it is not close this is as close using fact people who they used to declare I must be like and that they are. you too can.
2016-11-25 02:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by kimbler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell them or your (a) gonna get beat or (b) thrown out of the house and told never to be associated with them again.
Basically you're screwed. Lol, I'm glad I'm straight and don't have to worry about the BS you guys have to worry about. You guys just make life so much harder on yourselves thinking your gay.
2007-03-14 18:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bob C 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you might wanna wait until your out of the house before you come out. when your more self sufficient and independent of them. financially etc then you can move to a gay mecca and be out and proud and finally be able to be who you really want to be.
2007-03-13 20:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would likely be helpful for you to talk with someone that you trust to keep your confidence regarding your sexual feelings.. Have you tried talking with a school counselor or a teacher that you respect?....Only make personal revelations in an effort to draw people in closer to you.
2007-03-13 16:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by William B 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that is based on YOUR judgement, if you think it is right to tell them then thats what you should do, But if you think you NEED to then you should think otherwise. Go with what your heart tells you to do, not what some person tells you to.
2007-03-13 17:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by paul_wilkie2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow.. ur unlucky.. i kinda got the same problem. im bi (i think) and my dad is the biggest homophobe u will ever know .... so ya, good luck
2007-03-13 16:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋