My ex bf and I ended things on a very bad note. But no matter what, I can't seem to feel like i still care for him. When we were together he treated me with much respect. But something happened and another girl came into the picture and he treated me with such disrespect. Anyhow, its been about a month and we have not spoken. Tomorrow is his birthday, and I wanted to send him an email wishing him a happy birthday. He did not think about me on my birthday, we were fighting. I'm just really sad. We ended thigns by telling each other we had no reason to be in one anothers life. It was bad. I dont know why he changed so suddenly with me. Anyhow, should I leave well enough alone, or should I send him that email. He is so selfish and I dont want to give in. But I have a heart that even when people scew me over, I find it in me to forgive them. But he walks all over me. What should I do? PLease dont judge me for feeling this way. I only wanted to be friends, but it s
2007-03-13 16:42:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he probably changed so suddenly because of the other girl. If he hasn't called or spoke to you since the breakup then do not email him! leave it alone. by emailing him it's only gonna let him know you are miserable and gullable. its ok to be soft when you need to,but trust me this is not the appropriate time. he'll know then that he can walk all over you. the more he wonders what your doing the better. if yall had a great relationship and he really loves you he'll come back! give it time and space. DONT email him!!!
2007-03-13 17:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about people here judging you cuz we all got so many issues :) but you should not send anything. Been there and donne that and the person still didnt change.
Tomorrow just think of how bad he treated you and you will see that there is no point for that wishing email.
But is not like the end of the world even if you send that email anyway. Just make sure that u dont get hurt
2007-03-14 00:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by girly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let things be and not send him the email. If he's willing to do a 180 as soon as another girl comes around than he is not worth it. He sounds very two-faced and probably hides alot more than you know.
To me, you sound like a very considerate and caring girl. I know you are sad now but you'll get over it. You deserve better.
If he's not even willing to give a heads up on your birthday, than chances are he's moved on and so should you.
2007-03-13 23:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by topaz989_mc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on and be yourself. Send him your e-mail, and if you're feeling spontaneous go visit him in person. Although I would advise form that since he's currently with some other girl, and you don't want to intrude.
If you two get back together you can't be his doormat, because that can lead to abuse: mental, physical, etc.
You ended on a bad note, but this is a new year. Remember that!
2007-03-14 00:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by ~luminary legacy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and forget about his feelings. Think about yourself. What do you care if tomorrow is his birthday? It's just another day in your life.
He's not worth the effort it would take to hit "send".
2007-03-14 01:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say email him if it will put YOUR mind at ease. Don't think about how it will effect him, if it hurt you when you he didn't wish you a happy birthday...maybe he is not worth it. If it will put yer mind at ease then go for it, and not give a **** about what he thinks about it. Get 'em girl :]
2007-03-14 00:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Seduce A Stranger :] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋