My 13yr old is getting C's, and one F for not applying himself in school, I want to tell him that I can sign him up for a Saturday program this summer, I want to use this to get him to straighten up???
I was thinking of printing out some info and just leaving it on the table with some other paperwork to get him a little worried?
Is this not the right way to handle this? I've talked to teachers, had meetings, etc.
nothing works.
2007-03-13 16:41:24 · 9 answers · asked by tamilynn 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If you are going to use that type of threat,make it a real one.Actually find a program that you can enroll him in durring the summer if he keeps up with these grades.Your plan will fall through if he still gets the bad grades,and you never send him.He will remeber it in the future and never belive a word you say again.If he does come through with bad grades a summer school type program will help him the next year.Good Luck! :)
2007-03-13 17:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the last thing you should do is threaten him. Rather you should be very upfront and honest and let him know that he has three options: 1) straighten up 2) attend summer school or 3) repeat the grade. Please be very calm when you confront him with his choices. Leave it up to him to decide since nothing else seems to work. He's heard enough from Mom and his teachers and for whatever reason he's not listening. Make sure you keep your temper in check these following two months if he brings home bad grades. In fact don't mention a single thing about his grades unless he turns them around. Also make certain you let the teachers know of your plan. Now the best piece of advise I can give you is to be sure to follow through. If he fails then he HAS to go to summer school or repeat the grade as you said he would. Don't let on that you feel sorry for him when he faces the consequences. This is tough love but extremely important. If you fail to follow through now he will learn that Mom caves and he will lack respect for you. Besides if you nip it in the bud now it probably won't repeat itself. I wish you the best. I know it's going to be a long journey but well worth it in the end.
2007-03-14 00:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what I'd do and have done with my now 17 yo son. I dropped the little bomb today that his favorite aunt has been checking out boot camps for disciplinary problems and military schools. You should have seen his eyes widen..lol. I would make sure he saw it, and even leave a message on a piece of paper saying..Spoke with...whomever you need to speak with....positive feedback about sending..whatever your son's name is...to Saturday summer program. It might work. Mom to 3 here..understand your frustration.
2007-03-13 23:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay him for his good grades. Five or Ten dollars an A.
I think leaving papers on the table is a good idea. Maybe when you are talking to your husband on the phone when you son is in the room nonchalantly mention that he may have to go to summer school.
2007-03-14 08:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jubilicious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how summer school will help if he's doing so poorly now? No one can make him put out the effort, right?
Homeschool him and put him in charge of his education. Unschool - allow him to choose what he'll pursue. He'll probably have to detox from school for a while before he regains his brains and motivation and gets the burning desire for things.
It's not necessarily a bad thing that a child loses motivation for school. He may get how awful school is, how the design of it is to teach him to shut up and learn his place.
What does your son like? Is there anything left? Help him rediscover himself and get him moving towards his future.
2007-03-14 00:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't use the Saturday program as a threat. He might not be dreading that, might be looking forward to it, might have similar under-achieving friends going to it.
Instead, tell him that you are tying rewards to his grades. If he wants x, he has to earn it by studying and then that studying has to show up in improved grades.
Punishment is not as powerful as rewards.
2007-03-16 15:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. It may get through to him Good luck those teenage years were very trying times.
2007-03-13 23:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by mother of Bridezilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your son you'll reward him if he studies hard. Please tell you child to make it a point to study real hard, as he will excel in his own sweat, and also tell him he'll get a real good life after completing universtity. Try your best, good luck!
2007-03-13 23:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's perfectly fine.
2007-03-14 11:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋